This guy can read when I am not happy. I want to be able to snowball him for his own good. I have to come a bs artist quick. I have been told I do not have a poker face when we are trying to play a joke on someone they look at me to figure out if they are being had. They see it in my face.
If he asks am I sad or in a bad mood how do I get across to him I am terrific even though seeing him is making me feel like crap. He is the problem but he can never know. I need to be very secret about this because I have feeling for him and we can't since I am married. Any ideas. I can't tell him to go pound sand because in reality I want to be his friend but until I get these feelings under control. He charms me and flirts to get his own way. He has control of my feelings if I stay away from him I start to get better. If I have to see him in person I know I'll look at him and he will know. Sunglasses do work but he can tell by my body language too. What can I do?
2007-06-17 09:15:38 · 6 answers · asked by h 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It sounds like you have an obsession with this person. I think you should see a counselor and find out why you are 'fatally attracted' to him. In the meantime, stick to your work and do not fraternize about other things. Sometimes a fire reaches a high heat, nut then the heat fades. No one is perfect and some people just use other people. People get involved with others and then regret it their whole life. They find that some people enjoy the thrill of pursuit and conquer, but in the after math they have nothing in common. Would you like to join them? People say, "It is not the case here." And then find later that it was the same. People always think they are different, but they are not.
I'm sorry this sounds confusing, but it is really a question to pursue in therapy.
2007-06-17 09:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married then you should stop seeing this man all together before you take things too far (if you have not, which it sounds like you are trying to avoid) Temptation can be a hard thing to resist, so putting yourself right in front of it is just asking for trouble. You need to be honest with this guy instead of trying to BS him and tell him that you cannot let your friendship get too serious. If he cannot respect your decision then you need to let him go and loose a friend. Your other option is to leave your husband but it doesn't sound like you really want to do that.
2007-06-17 16:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by Smarty Pants 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so Wait there just a second. now I've never been married before, but isn't marriage the "big bang" the "real deal", "big pic." 4ever and ever 'till DEATH do you part" ?? you have made a big decision. the bible says that once married one is not to leave one's spouce without a certificate of devorce. if you feel that you like this other guy/girl before having an affair try this:
people usually want things most when they can't have them
make sure that you really take time to think this over and be completely sure that this is what you want.
also about the body language try to do a little less of that
and maybe try to tell him/her to just give you some space. if he/she truly loves you they'll understand.
2007-06-17 16:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by kimberly s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. just hit him over the head with a baseball bat. then he wont be able to read u. because he'll be knocked out. hahahahahahahaha. i thought that was funny. w/e ur a bore. i hate u.
2007-06-17 16:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In real life you would just quit being around him. you have a ring on your finger for a reason (im assuming you arnt wearing it)
2007-06-17 16:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him its complicated and you can't talk about it but you are very happy you are span ding time together now shut up and enjoy my company life is Short and i want to spend it happy
2007-06-17 16:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋