Ok so I need some advice my husband is on the interent maybe on the interent 4-6 times a day sometimes less, but hes not like on it all the time. He talks to various people, some women, some men and just says they are his friends. The internet doesnt seem to interfering with our relationship or any of his everyday duties. He talks about some of these people every now and then but it seems like he and internet life and a real like and in his real life im his wife. He works so much that he really doesn't have much time to be on the computer or do much of anything. Nonone calls for him or anything like that. I saw a message where he was telling one of his guy friends that this girl he met on there is awesome but thats all he said about her. Is it possible to have an internet life and a real life? And could this be whats happening, since his internet seems to be completely separate from his his internet life? Is it possible to have a flirty personality and think that your just being nice?
2007-06-17 08:48:48 · 8 answers · asked by renee_0102 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
then tell him how u feel about that..
2007-06-17 08:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by shahreenxoxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question means it is affecting you and your relationship. However your question is contradictory. You say he is on the computer 4-6 times a day, then you say he works too much to be on very often. Wich one is it? And if he is so busy working, shouldnt he spend more time when he is not with his wife? I can tell you this, surfing the web, browsing websites and even looking at porn is one thing. But when it starts to become regular interaction with internet "friends", then maybe its time to take a harder look at it. It isnt a big leap today to think that he might actaully be meeting some of these friends in real life. Where there is smoke there is not always fire, but it sure looks suspicious.
If they are just friends, then he wont mind you reading all of his messages now will he? Maybe tell him you want to make friends with them as well, see how that goes over. Or better yet, tell him about all the nice guys you are meeting online, and how they are just "friends". I think that will put some perspective on this whole situation for him.
good luck
T
2007-06-17 16:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by trestan92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on line to 'Online infidelity' the site gives you tons of info about on line cheating. Tells you the signs to look for and the reasons people do it. You should be very aware that many, many marriages are being ruined by this very real cheaters paradise. They tell themselves because it is on line it really isn't cheating. But that is the farthest thing from the truth. It is called emotional infidelity. It can also lead to cyber sex which is cyber adultery and actual physical adultery. This is not a good thing. You have the right as his wife to know exactly what he is doing and saying with other women, on line or in real life.
Actually the women they cheat with on line are very real human beings. Don't be surprised when he tells you to mind your own business and then when he tells you it's your fault he is doing something wrong. Don't buy it. Don't trust him with it. Keep your eyes peeled all the time. This can lead to much unhappiness and eventually divorce.
2007-06-17 16:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, your husband is addicted to the internet and he is actually looking for an escape from real life. Like many young people, too much time on a computer can dilute their perception of normal daily activities, much like television. Too much television in a young child's life, that will be the only world it will know and can never relate to real life.
I would have a frank discussion about his other life and tell him that it is driving a wedge between you and him and set some goals for him to achieve. Example: That beautiful outfit you saw at Kohl's would look great when he takes you to dinner.
2007-06-17 16:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by zdude_4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl stop him before it goes too far. There are real people on the other side of the computer. I have been through this and the end result: separation and other women!!! Let him know how you feel.
2007-06-17 22:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by babee864 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you uncomfortable in any way then he should discontinue his behavior. As long as he isn't typing anything for "his eyes only" I don't think you have anything to worry about.
2007-06-17 16:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be a support group for us "junkies." I would just be concerned who the women are...where they live...how and where did he meet them online. You should express your concerns to him.
2007-06-17 15:56:43 · answer #7 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-06-17 15:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋