i wonder why my kids never get me anything on fathers day?

Question

well this is my daughters screen name so dont be fooled . but ya know i have four boys 25 22 21 and 18 and a daughter who is not bilogically mine. my daughter called me like 12 00 0clock none of the boys called me yet and they will well at least two of them. but i never get anything as in likke there mother they took her out to eat
they all work ;although one is in sc headed for iraq. one works for nj transit the 18 yr old probably does not make too much money and my oldest hes strugglin so this i understand . but what i dont get is they will find the time and make the sacrafice to give ther mother something but i never ever get a thing maybe a phone call from 2 or 3 of them and thats fine but i wonder why?
i always give them somthing for there birthday and christmas and i never get a thing its more hurtful then it is being expectant of a gift that i dont get a thing ever

Answer 1

Father's Day is routinely overlooked. Not sure why that is but it happens to more fathers than you would think.

Answer 2

This is a really great question. I have the same problem but I'm the mom.
When my kids were little, I would either make something or take them out to make sure they got something for their dad. I think it's so important to teach kids that giving feels as good as getting (usually!).
Now, my kids are older and although they call, only my daughter will bother with a card.
I would, very gently, let my kids know that my feelings are hurt. Obviously they don't need to spend much $, but they should let you know they care. They can call or offer to mow the lawn or send a card.
Yeah, I know, Father's Day is a commercial holiday but it is a good opportunity to show appreciation, especially if it's not shown otherwise.

Answer 3

Are you truely a good father? Do you think your kids appreciate you? If you can answer yes to these questions then it may be that the kids don't know how to buy a gift that you will actually enjoy instead of something that will end up in the back of a closet. It's easy to buy a woman a gift, even a woman that has everything. So take that into consideration and just appreciate the fact that at least your kids called you. that in itself means they are thinking about you.

Answer 4

I'm a father too. My oldest daughter is 15, my son is 13 and my youngest is 5. The older two are not mine but I love them as my own.
They too, after my marriage to their mom, didn't give me anything but a hug or a verbal expression for two years. But after our second year together they have opened up more and have paid ( as a pair with their allowance money) for this years Father's day dinner.
It took me some time to let them know that I'm not a rock that doesn't feel pain. That I will give to you and you should do the same for me. We all have feelings... even tough dads! And that it's ok to share them. My wife has done alot to reinforce this idea. But you must tell your children how you feel about this.The more time you waste is time that is lost. You don't have to make them feel like a hill about. But make your point known. And do so from the heart. If you think they will be sensitive about this. Then be subtle. Email them and maybe mention things you would like to have on fathers day next year. Me.... I am direct about my feelings. Sometimes to strong. But anything from the heart is OK, if said properly. Also have your wife help. She can make magic for you.
After this maybe pose the idea of a mother and father's day dinner at the same time next year as to kill two birds w/ one stone. It saves on money and both of you are honored.

Answer 5

It sounds to me like you raised a few ingrates! It's a sad fact that good father's are not as appreciated as they should be! I would talk to your wife about this, let her give them a good tongue lashing for not sending you a watch or SOMETHING on father's day! Of course, it means less if it's forced. I think you just want them to know they care, a bit more than a phone call!

But I think a lot of it is taking people for granted. :( Which is very sad. Your boys (and daughter) need someone to give them a swift kick in the ***!

Answer 6

they oviously feel that they dont need to get you anything or a phone call. Do they have children. If so hint by calling them and wishing them a Happy Fathers Day. But I am sorry they did not call or get you any thing. I wish you a Happy Fathers DAy. You could just tell them how you fill.

Answer 7

it would not harm... attempt getting touch with him see if he solutions, from time to time while a parents gets a divorce and are not getting in touch with the newborn that is with the aid of awkward dating he had alongside with your mom. additionally you men the two stay in different places... yet your precise it particularly is unusual that he would not deliver you something for you birthday yet do not look into as a undesirable subject, i comprehend it is undesirable for me to declare, you will get extra financial help while your mom is seen as a single parent. perhaps he theory if he have been given in touch with you, existence could be stressful with the aid of fact he might hardly get to work out you or perhaps he would not decide for his kin to comprehend, i'm particular he cares approximately you.

Answer 8

Ouch.I don't know what to tell you....I guess sometimes kids can take stuff for granted and be ungrateful for having a parent that cares for them?

Answer 9

Hey! they're girls,They are just practising being ungrateful women.

Answer 10

the mothers tend to be the ones around more often in childhood. thats who they remember cooking, and going to plays, and fixing there boo boo's. its probably not personal.