this is a bad situation my daughter is 25, an three kids, financee in jail, he will be out in 30days, he his the father of two of the kids, she said she loves him an will stand by him, been with him back an forth 6yrs. now she met someone esle an has to listen to him an no one esle, willing to leave her kids if has to just to make him happy, an if she doesn't let him have total control , he yell's at her, she don't want to be alone, thats why she is with him, he has total control on her, has her not even listen to her mother an father, we would love to find a way to break them up for the better of it, she is a pretty girl, 5ft. 4in ,118lbs. long blonde hair, blue eyes, an could have a better guy, can any one help with an answer please
2007-06-17 07:18:13 · 17 answers · asked by NEED HELP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its sad but there is really nothing you can do or say. shes gonna have to learn on her own. some of are most learning experience isnt told its learned from going through it ourselves. ive got a friend like that, she puts her children off for the guy shes seeing. love is blind and she doesnt see what everyone else sees. the only thing you can do is pray for her!
2007-06-25 06:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by warrior*in*the*making 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a 25 year old. You can only give advice when asked. Love her but butt out of her decisions and let her rise or fall on her own. She is a grown woman and will live with her own choices. Stay in the wings and be there when and if she falls. This is all you can do for her now.
2007-06-23 14:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by alioopisme 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The thing is that when a person is in this type of controlling relationship they think that it is normal and will defend their relationship until the very end. Something like this is out of your hands completely and in hers. There is no talking someone out of this type of relationship.l Only time will show her that it is unhealthy. You need to worry about the children you daughter is a grown woman, she can figure the relationship thing out on her own.
2007-06-25 05:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think her fiancee will handle it too once he gets out ask her if you can take the kids for a while she is too worried about her loneliness she is not worried about her childrens need for their father and mother. Step in like my grandma did, if you believe in tough love try calling athorities for abuse, if she is taking good care then step back, in 30 days he will be back, hopefully he doesnt go back for beating someone up.
2007-06-17 07:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by deedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the last thing she needs is someone else....she needs to love herself before she finds "someone better" she is incapable of that. She doesn't even love her children...I feel so sad for her. As a parent, I would want her to be by herself. She needs to be BY HERSELF, perferrably with her children and love them not some other man who will make more children. Go get that girl fixed so she can't have anymore children.
2007-06-25 05:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by raycat97 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Asking her to leave either guy will only make her more rebellious. I think she has very low-self esteem regardless of how pretty she might be. She feels she's only happy if this guy like her, because neither one seems to love her.
Tell her before she make any decision to, please go with you to see a therapist. She really needs it, hopefully the therapist will help her love herself more and her kids.
2007-06-17 07:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lulu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be more worried about her leaving the children at this point. She has proven that she is somewhat recklass and has issues, so you need to either get custody of the kids or get them into foster care.
2007-06-17 07:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by princessn1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is - its her choice but you can try to communicate with her as much as possible to let her know how much you dis -approve of her decisions she has made and the situation she is in.
2007-06-17 07:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too bad she wasn't taught the birds and bees and "protection", but anyway she "layed" her bed too often now she has to figure it out. Be ther when she comes crawling home for support until then she will have to sort it out in time and hopefully the kids don't suffer in the meantime.
2007-06-17 07:23:10 · answer #9 · answered by unit663 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just send someone to kick his useless #$$. He sounds like a turd. If he's abusive, mentally or physically, report it and don't let up. The threat of losing their kids might help.
2007-06-17 07:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋