Why do women say looks don't matter much?

Question

because the truth is they do a lot. looks don't matter that much to women when they are ready to settle down and looking for a long term relationship. when it comes to sexual attraction, looks are the most important factor.

the truth is, when it comes to sexual attraction, women choose looks over personality, over money, over compatibility, even over sexual experience. come on, we all know most women, even in their 30s and older would much rather screw an 18 year old with no job and nothing in common with them if he's cute than an average looking, rich, successful guy around their age with a good job and personality who has a lot in common with them. so why do women act like they are different from guys and care about other things?

and actually, if you think about it, when it comes to sexual attraction, looks are far more imortant to women than to men. sure, neither women or men go for ugly ones, but men aren't only attracted to the super cute ones.

women, never flirt with guys who are simply average looking. guys often times find average looking girls hotter than the super cute ones.

remember though, i'm not talking about serious relationships. sure a lot of women outgro the idea of wanting to marry guys for their looks, but they never outgro the idea of wanting them in bed.

when you're looking for amarriage, looks may not matter, but when you're looking for a sex partner, looks are ALL that matter.

i don't see how sleeping wityh someone you don't find drop dead gorgeous makes you a slut.

"why are all of your questions the same question rephrased?"

because women are so confusing! they keep saying the same thing over and over again, that they 'care about personality' and that looks aren't all that matter, but what i see every day contradicts that.

in my martial arts class, there are people of all, ages, men and women. most of the older women(30s and older), are always hanging out with the cute looking boys around my age(i'm 19, but that doesn't include me, because i'm not cute) who have nothing in common with them, and some of which are somewhat shy and immature(so forget personality). while there are plenty of mature grown men to hang out with.

Answer 1

Let's get this straight once and for all. When you're first talking to the guy, looks DO matter. Initial attraction is VERY important. As you develop a relationship, whether you like him or not matters more, and looks become a fringe benefit.

Answer 2

I read something interesting once. Men and women that were in relationships were polled seperately about the relationship. If they said it was "happy" or "very happy", they were more likely to give both themselves and their partner an equal "rating" for appearance. So, a guy who calls himself a 7, and is dating a 7, is likely to be happier than a 7 dating a 3 or a 10. "3" s are happy with other 3s, "10"s with other 10s. Just thought I'd throw that in there. They polled the men and women seperately, and each tended to agree with his/her partner's ratings.

As you get older, perhaps you can get involved with some different interests and meet more women. A woman you meet at a church group, a Greenpeace meeting, or whatever is likely to want to get to know you as a friend, which leads to a more mature relationship anyway. Hopefully as the girls around you mature, they will realize that personality is far more important than looks. The super-attractive guys sometimes have an ego problem, anyways. It takes some women a very long time to realize this. There truly is someone for everyone out there, I promise.

Answer 3

I agree that when it comes to sexual attraction that looks are important... initially it is all you really know about them (if the relationship is only sex then it may be all you ever know).

I disagree that women want to date young men , I am in my early 30's and men in there early 20's don't do anything for me... they seem very immature and boring.
I also disagree that looks are less important to men... are you saying that men are more likely to have sex with a women they find unattractive?

Answer 4

Actually they do matter to guys and girls. Because when looking for a mate, looks first then personality. That's how I am and that's how most people are in this world. And I'm not shallow because if the guys personality sucks but he's the hottest guy ever, I'll dump him.

Answer 5

looks dont matter, sexual attraction matters. they dont have to look like brad pitt to be hot or be attracted to. they have to look like a real man, like a good catch. people are attracted to different things. its just if they have that special something really, not really about looks, like for instance, i can have a real hot lookin man in front of me = i find him attractive but i could have another man right next to him that society would deem more 'average looking' yet im more sexually attracted to him for some reason, some other characteristic/ and it helps if you have some stuff in common with them , like same sense of humor, etc.. Personality is huge too

I totally disagree with 'Mike T', thats the most ridiculous thing ive ever heard. It dosent matter to me what anyone else thinks of the guy im with or if they consider him 'the best' or not. Maybe thats your thing Mike

Answer 6

quite, it is dependent upon the ladies. however i suppose to so much available in the market, above all at the moment appears are foremost to ladies and guys. i imply so long as your no longer bad or underneath a four on a one million-10 scale then you can discover a lady to love you. in the beginning i mostly appear at appears. i imply no person wishes an unsightly man in any case. do you wish an unsightly woman? no i dont suppose so. so YES appears depend. with a bit of luck your a 6.five or better or in any other case no longer alot of ladies can be hitting on ya. -take it from a ladies. I recognise those matters

Answer 7

Women definitely care a lot about looks, but not for the same reason men do. Men want attractive looking women because it is sexually arousing to us. Women go for looks so they can show off to their friends and family.. as well as other women. Dating is like a sport to women... who can get the best guy. No one will be jealous of a women with some ugly dude.

It is my opinion that Women are the most superficial creatures on this planet. Everything they do revolves around outward appearences.

Answer 8

I never say that so I wouldn't know.

However, your comments are rather sexist and one-sided. I find it rather offensive that you would imply that women are more shallow then men. Could it not be said that men are just sluts that will sleep with anything? I'm not saying that's true but it seems like a reasonable explanation for what you are implying.

Answer 9

Men get pleasure off visual while women tend to get more pleasure from sounds & smells (pheromones).

The "Men" you speak of probably have great smells and great voices. When I say "Smells" I mean pheromones which are most present after a shower ... ah sweat usually kills the nice pheromone smells.

Answer 10

Not really, if you know how to sweet talk them, then you will not have any problems. The thing is, that you must engage conversation first, and to do this, you need a lot of Humor...
If you can't sweet talk and don't have a spontaneous sense of humor, then you need to look pretty... But girls do prefer to get attention, no matter hows your body...
The sad fact, is that, if you know to do this, you can get almost all women... Which I find it plain boring...