What about several lap dances? What if your husband came home smelling of two dollar perfume?
2007-06-17 06:33:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unacceptable!
2007-06-17 06:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
A lap dance is not cheating. If he becomes obsessed with going to strip clubs then that is cause for concern. Then again, he could always get lap dances at home from his wife.
2007-06-17 13:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what you two have agreed to. If he is doing it behind your back because you aren't ok with it, then yes it could be considered cheating. Sounds like you may have larger problems than whether he's getting lap dances or not. Just talk to him and let him know how you feel. If that makes you uncomfortable, then you definitely have larger problems. Good luck.
2007-06-17 15:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fer God's Sake, ITS A LAP DANCE. BIG DEAL.
Now if both of them were naked, then it would be.
Not using Bill Clinton's frame of reference for legal definitions; Did they have sexual relations? If it was just a lap dance, then no.
Lighten up. Does it matter if he looks at a Playboy magazine? Or watch a porn movie? Maybe glances at an attractive young lady walking down the street? Does all of that mean he's looking to jump on the first female that is willing? NO.
Give your man some credit. Did he lie to you about it? Who did he end up in bed with? You, or the jiggly dancer?
I settled this issue with my wife long ago. I told her I wasn't fooling around, had no intentions of fooling around,
2007-06-17 19:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by RepoMan18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm, I wouldn't call it cheating, but if it's a habit of his, and you aren't happy about it, then he should stop for you, because you asked and it bothers you. But remember those girls in the stripclubs do the same thing for hundreds of guys a week, and probably sleeping with him is the last thing on their mind. You have to choose your battles, if it's an occaisonal thing, like a bachelor party, I'd crack jokes and let it go, but if he's doing this everyweekend then there is definitely a problem. Come to a compromise, that if he stops going you'll give him a dance yourself, who knows could be fun
2007-06-17 13:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by hesmyhotpapi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your definition of cheating. To me it is cheating. To others it may not be. Why, does your husband buy lap dances? Waste of money and time, especially when you have a great wife like I do. I would never humiliate my wife like that.
2007-06-17 13:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by Fergy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband, if you are the one giving a lap dance to another guy would it be ok to him? what if you come home and smelling like a man's perfume? would that be ok to him? lol.
2007-06-17 13:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by dm-dnd 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would say he has a problem and you better put an end to it now, lap dancing leads to cheating next, and it seems like it would be a form of cheating anyway to me. (my opinion only)
2007-06-17 16:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by tannerlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES it can lead to cheating, when one uses their mind and imagination of the dancer doing sexual desires with him while she is dancing for him. the man then goes home to be with wife (sexually) and thinks about the sexy 20 year old who lap danced earlier. so yes it can be cheating. on the other hand if he is just doing it to see variety , and nothing affects him( very seldom in a mans world ) then its OK once in a awhile. sex is sex and sex sells many dangerous outcomes...
2007-06-17 13:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by flowerlegz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd only let my husband get a lap dance if I were there with him. That way I can guarantee that it was ONLY a lap dance.
2007-06-17 13:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by mshavik 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the man buys the lap dance then yes, if his friend buys it for him then no.
2007-06-18 10:13:24 · answer #11 · answered by The Mikester 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋