She has been traveling out of town for weekend trips alone even without kids(to her families out of state) There always seems to be reasons for this and usually at the last minute. He has been saying stuff to my husband and I, my husband more. There are suspicions from what he says and he says it like he knows what these could be signs of. For example she came home or was leaving with new lingerie and she told him she was going to surprise him w/ it or something but it was in her travel bag. Now she has lost a lot of weight and as a woman and her friend I can tell she REALLY likes herself right now.
My hubby and 2 of his other friends tried to just say Yes she is and than he asked me if I though so and I didn't say either way and said what does your heart say and he said "No" and I said O.K. but than after I overheard him with the guys still talking like he really thinks she his. I think he is in denial. I guess she's going again for the weekend in 2 weeks.
2007-06-17 05:58:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She might be cheating but then again maybe not. The fact she goes to her families all the time doesn't sound suspicious but the fact she always leaves her kids does. I go to my mothers all the time but I take the kids with me except for the rare occasion that I need a break. But the truth always comes out in the end and whether your friend wants to admit it or not in his heart he already knows the truth
2007-06-17 06:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This scenario could really be so many different things... and none of them should involve you, your husband, or the couple's other friends. This is an especially intimate, complicated, and sensitive topic, and nobody should be having open discussions about it-- it will only make things that much worse if it does turn out to be true. Imagine, for instance, that she gets "caught"-- do you think her husband might regret having shared all of this with his friends, knowing that it you all will never forget it, and it will probably change the way you feel about their marriage? Or imagine if this is all a false alarm, and she is simply on a very intense personal journey right now-- do you think he wants you all to know the details of his doubt and lack of trust?
Also, if she is still your friend, and you plan on keeping her as one, it might be best to stop discussing this situation amongst each other. It often happens that, after a scene like this, the couple in question "make up", which can involve sharing *everything*-- including what they said to other people about each other, and what other people said about the situation. Anything that gets discussed in your circle of friends could come back to haunt you later, so keep that in mind-- and maybe encourage others to put a lid on it, too!
In other words: Comforting and listening to a friend in need is one thing, but participating in long discussions with him (and others) to analyze whether or not his wife is cheating is a whole other ball game. Your best bet is to stick with being a silent "ear." :)
2007-06-17 13:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by lemontart 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you really need to stay out of this- even if you are asked for an opinion. You will (are) run the risk of loosing one and perhaps two friends. It matters not what everyone else says ultimately the husband will have to stand up and face the facts without the advise of friends.
2007-06-17 13:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does seem strange, I know that I dont like to go on trips with out my husband it is always better with him there. It does seem weird, why would she not take the kids?
2007-06-17 13:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes she is. He should ask her Family how much she is with them and if she stays the night at there house when she is there.I'm sure there's someone in her Family who knows and don't think its right. Find the right Family member and you'll find out.
2007-06-17 21:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. Even if she's not right now she may be headed that way. While I do sometimes buy lingerie just for me I wouldn't travel with it to visit my folks.
2007-06-17 13:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it. She's gone every weekend and is taking lingerie with her, that is a bad sign.
2007-06-17 13:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think she is and my husbands ex-wife did the same thing going away every weekend
2007-06-17 13:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by october_4_2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is cheating..
2007-06-17 13:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fishy to me.
2007-06-17 13:03:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋