How would you of reacted.?

Question

At my wedding yesterday the cheif bridesmaids husband and his two mates, turned up in jeans and trainers at the reception. None of them like me, have never spoken for four years and accuse me of sponging off my wife. I had them thrown out but it didnt result in a fight, just a lot of hot air and threats. Would you have done it differently.

Sponging means because I'm not working because we made a decision as a couple that I become a house husband, whilst my wife brings in the money. I keep the house clean, garden, drop the kids off and pick them up from school, cook and keep the house shipshape.

PPS. I fly to Egypt tomorrow morning. My wife wanted to see the reaction from strangers, or from an outside view point.

Answer 1

you did right they had no respect for you turning up like that

Answer 2

First of all, what you and your wife decide to do in your life is no one else's business so I'd be telling them to mind their own business and grow up.

If they turned up that way and showed that much disrespect for you and your wife, I think you did the right thing. How sad they weren't grown up enough to not ruin your special day but that's how children are. Maybe someone forgot to give them their bottle before they arrived.

And I would question having a friend whose husband would be so disrespectful. If he doesn't like the way you live, he can stay away from you, he doesn't have to come and cause a scene the way he did. Sounds like you two need to make some new friends and live the life you have chosen in peace away from those who like to nose into other people's business.

Take care of each other and do what makes you happy. You don't owe other people an explanation and I admire you both for working things out so well. I admire your wife for being open enough to see how others think on this ~ makes for a good relationship when you are open to suggestions and can talk things out.

Have a safe trip to Egypt and a wonderful, loving life together

Answer 3

I'm sorry that this happened, your wedding day is supposed to be one filled with happiness, not conflict. It sounds as if the only reason they turned up at all was to spoil the day for you. You did the right thing by having them thrown out, and congratulations that there were no fights about it. Obviously whatever they think about you and your wife, she and you are both happy with whatever your financial situation is, so it really has nothing to do with them, and them showing up at your wedding, dressed inappropriately, and out to cause trouble, shows what type of people they are.

Answer 4

I think I would have reacted the same way. Not only did they show up at your wedding wearing jeans and sneakers, but they had the nerve to accuse you of something like that at your wedding?! Yeah, I definately would have kicked thier asses out.

By the way atlantaboi, sponging off someone means using them for thier money, a place to live, ect....


And Iyamacog trainers are tennis shoes or sneakers... its term they use in the UK for it.

Answer 5

I think I would have done the same as you if I had been the bridegroom - why should you put up with that lack of respect at your wedding?!
They probably did it on purpose because they wanted to wind you up!
As long as you and your wife love each other and are happy with the way you have your life arranged it is nobody else's business!

Answer 6

It is you and your wifes special day. If you had reason to believe that they only showed up to ruin it for you, than you had every right. If they were not invited to the reception, there might have not been enough food, and they were dressed improperly to boot. I think you did the right thing, and that it is terrible that they threatened you on the way out of your own wedding reception. Shame on them.

Answer 7

Probably not. That is your day and it should be special. If someone is trying to ruin that for you then they should of been thrown out. Don't feel bad if they are not your friends and were being nasty.

What is sponging off my wife mean?

Answer 8

I think you did right by throwing them out. Think about it - they had obviously planned to turn up scruffily dressed. Bit of a coincidence if they had all just appeared dressed like that - they've obviously discussed this beforehand and agreed to do this. They sound like a sad bunch of losers. It's a shame they had to be there in the first place. Try to forget about it and not have let it spoil your day.

Answer 9

You reacted perfectly. It is YOUR and your WIFE's day; nobody else's. If they didn't have the courtesy to dress appropriately (if they were invited at all) then you had every right to kick them out. They probably would have been disruptive at the reception and annoyed the rest of your family and friends. Good job!

Answer 10

Well, Yeah!! I wouldnt have made any kind of scene at my own wedding thank you just the same. These guys aren't worth you making a bad memory of the most important day in your's and your new spouse's life. They were disrespectful of not just you, but your spouse, your families and all your friends. I would say they had already made an horse's *** of themselves. You didn't need to add to it. But what's done is done, you have to live with it now.

Answer 11

Ignore--life is too short my friend--as you said--a lot of hot air. Chill...it was the biggest, greatest, most special day of you and your new wife's life together--why let a couple of spanner's ruin it for you?--they are nothing to you--and mean nothing to you--ride on man, ride on. Congratulation's from someone you don't even know and never will.