If he has a problem with me he goes to other people or places to get an answer. He doesn't come to me EVER!!! Unless I play detective I'll never know he has a problem. What should I do??
2007-06-17 04:17:16 · 10 answers · asked by Lucy Lu Hoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i believe that he feels he cant talk to you or maybe he doesn't trust you . I think you need to talk to him and make him trust you. The line of communication in a relationship is very important and needs to be open between a couple. That's what makes it a partnership. Talk to him and let him know how you feel without arguing and see where it leads. But you have to work at it and don't expect miracles over night. I think its a trust issue.. well good luck..
2007-06-21 01:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by jason l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one...start with NOT BEING A HYPOCRITE. You are upset with him for him going to other people and places, yet you came right here to Y!A, and you expect a good answer? Why didn't you go talk to him? Maybe he doesn't talk to you because you don't come to him with your problems about him...ever think of that? Or, maybe he doesn't want to upset you with something that he may say. Sometimes it is easier to talk to someone else because they wont judge him as harshly as you would. but thats not a bad thing, you're his wife youre going to be tough on him. its just that maybe he's scared you'll get angry and he'll wind up sleeping on the couch. just tell it to him straight...honey, if you have a problem with me, just tell me...i need to know so that i know what i can do about it.
get him comfortable with telling you stuff and let him know that even if it offends you, he wont be left sleeping outside or something...because you could have changed it.
2007-06-17 11:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Needs Help..Gives Answers <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you bring it up, just have a nice calm talk with him with you two alone.He could possibly talk to other people to see if the problem is him and not you. Im not saying hes right for doing it because there are suppose to be two people in a relationship, but I think you should just talk to him..hope i helped..good luck!
2007-06-17 11:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by fresh gyal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you're his wife and part of being married is that you come to your spouse when you need help. When two people get married they vow that they'll be truthful to each other and always take care of each other.
Him telling you that he has a problem and you helping him out with it is exactly what you should be doing.
Tell him how you feel about him confronting other people about his issues and that you want to be the one that's there for him because you always are, and you'll love him no matter what.
I hope that helped! :]
2007-06-17 11:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are "hard-wired" that way; worse than miscommunication is non-communication in a relationship.
May need to seek higher and much better counseling than provided from Yahoo Answers! Good luck, eh?
2007-06-17 11:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. I go through the same thing except it's about gossip instead of problems. Talk to him about this and he may open up to you more, maybe he just doesn't want to burden you?
2007-06-17 11:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by jacquie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe like a lot of women you talk to much and don`t listen enough.
2007-06-17 11:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he doesnt have that much confidence in you as much as he has in others to whom he goes and tells his problem.
2007-06-18 07:03:45 · answer #8 · answered by Prashant S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out why he doesn't feel he can communicate with you. Do you yell and scream when you are mad? Do you insult him when you don't get your way? Try couples therapy.
2007-06-17 11:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to HIM.
2007-06-17 11:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋