thanks for all the answers to my last question. you guys are awesome!! i considered everything , but i feel that i tried to let go of all the anger, tried to compromise, tried to get along, we're happy for awhile but, then miserable again. no he's not abusive,not a cheat. he's good w/ boys, but has a temper at times where if something annoys him he growls or screams out loud. its quite silly and it makes me angry because it sets a bad example for the boys.he's hard working. he's a commercial pilot just starting his career, it takes awhile have to accumulate hours b'fore getting hired anywhere. alot of things about him turns me off however, always cranky,prob. due to quitting smoking, not enough sleep, works at night. doesn't really take care of himself, gained alot of weight, not too good hygeine,says depres'd about how i treat him. we fight too much, alot of anger. noones fault, maybe just don't like each other. i feel alone & miss being w/ someone, emot. sexually but not w/ him.
2007-06-17 04:07:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i should have phrased my question, " what if i don't find him attractive anymore, if i'm not in love anymore?" it seems that some people misunderstood.
2007-06-17 05:02:07 · update #1
Actually , its not you.. It sounds like he has alot on his mind - with work- he is just stressed, maybe working alot of hours - he's tired - gained weight, maybe feels unattractive himself -- quit smoking- would make you quite cranky and irritable - so, it is NOT you - it is everything in his life right now - work- not smoking - his job - stress - maybe you could just help by making his life allittle bit less stressful -- try not to fight - just be good to him - be supportive - don't put him down- because what comes goes around - come around.. meaning.. if you treat him better- you yourself will start to feel better about yourself too, and in the long run - you will both be more happy and get along.
2007-06-17 04:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you married? If you are, this is no reason for a divorce. I know that having a bad temper is not a good thing but nobody is perfect. Be loving. Be affectionate even if you dont feel like it. Treat him the way he wants to be treated and he will come around. Give him a reason to want to shine again. I honestly dont know how he is getting his career off the ground (no pun intended) without your support. He may not be the perfect dad but how will your kids feel if you arent together anymore? Beleive me, they are better off with the two of you together. Instead of focusing on what annoys you, focus on why you married him and being the wife who once loved him.
2007-06-17 11:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not look into counseling? Sounds like you're both caught up in LIFE, and have temporarily forgotten how to enjoy the company of each other. Too much stress and not enough rest will make for an unhappy relationship.
2007-06-17 11:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about being cleaner and about all the things that are bothering you in the relationship. He is your husband and you should do everything and anything you can to make the marriage better.
Focus in on what is good about the relationship and not so much on the negative aspects. Work on your marriage together, let him know you are willing to work on the parts that aren't so good. After all you meant your wedding vows, right? For better or worse in sickness and in health for richer or poorer until death do us part.
2007-06-17 11:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Maybe he should try anger managment? Whenever I get enraged I ask myself if I'm angry anough to break my owm finger. I never do. Try talking, helping him with hygiene, going running together sometime, refuse to let him start a fight but don't turn into a doormat... If things don't get better....
2007-06-17 11:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He who angers you has conquered you**. Sounds to me like you are existing but not living in a mutually satisfying meaningful relationship**... If a person is contributing to your happiness or contributing to unhappiness is a decision that is vital for ones own personal happiness*... Which do you want?**......
2007-06-17 14:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, it won't work.
There are too many differences.
Be honest.
It will be more difficult the longer you wait.
2007-06-17 11:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes not attracted to you maybe it probably means he doesnt like you. sorry!
2007-06-17 11:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋