2007-06-17 03:33:32 · 20 answers · asked by Dave 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
One of the things (in relationship) that I have come to realize is...we will always have arguments...some worse than others. It is so human and in some ways, necessary.
Anyone you live with, day in and day out, will 'rub' you the wrong way! Look at our children (if you have children) they drive us crazy, at times, but we don't divorce them or stay angry at them! We take them on our lap and explain that we love them, but it's just been a bad day, etc.
In a loving relationship, there is forgiveness. To simply explain that, "I lost it, I love you very much and you know you are my life...please help me out. I want to know how we can prevent this particular argument from happening again." And listen to his/her response!!!!
When you asked for help, it shows your vulnerability, it shows that you are really sincere and care so much. It softens things.
I always say to my husband, " I know that this is some of "my stuff"...I'm not blaming you, but I feel this way and need your help...help!" :)
2007-06-17 04:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Eve 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you ask yourself what caused the argument and how it got out of control?
Then you go to your partner and ask them to sit down to talk about it calmly and rationally.
You sit rules. There is no interrupting the other person. After they are finished speaking, the other person tells them what they think that they said. No interruptions.
You state what you think the problem is and then they state what they think the problem is... You both state your solution. Then you discuss the best possible solution.
If you can't reach an agreement, either compromise or agree to sleep on it and set a time to discuss it the next day.
The key is to actually LISTEN to each other WITHOUT interrupting. If you can do that, you have made an enormous step in building, and maintaining, an open and honest relationship.
2007-06-17 03:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give eachother time to breath..... ie give them space( not a day or two, but like 3 hours) also never go to bed upset at eachother and no drama after 10pm or before 8 am . and someone has to be a bigger person. admits their fults and explain to their partner their feelings without pointing the finger or blaming the other. come to a FULL conclusion to the issues and ways to avoid it next time. I said full becasue if there are things left unsaid then the issue will come up again when not needed.
2007-06-17 03:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by pisces_dreamer06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dave let me get this straight you have a WIFE/HUSBAND?
Holy Guacamole dude you are in trouble it's hard enough fo me dealing with one and you have both.
Maybe if you go into a coma for a few months when you wake up the situation may be a little better
:-)
2007-06-17 03:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by EEK 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that's a tuff one, it depends on alot of issues. If you really love that person and you can forget and forgive, then do the very best you can to make nice and go on to the next day. Try and learn from your or their mistakes to not let the same situation happen again.
2007-06-17 03:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resolve as quickly as possible. The longer it goes on the harder it is to sort. Life is too short to ignore one another. If you can't agree on something, meet each other half way and do a compromise. If you done wrong, apologise, worth a lot when someone says they are sorry.... Hope you sort it. Gd luck :)
2007-06-17 03:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way , is to talk about it..
talk about the main reason which made that argument get that bad, and clear your both minds .
and then promise each other that you both will do your best to compromise.
and when you are married, you got married for love..
so remember that you love her\him,, and remind him/her that you love each other..
love will make it easy .
good luck to you .
2007-06-17 03:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say you know you're a clutz n act goofy - get her laughing then when you've both cooled down talk it over calmly with no finger pointing.
Don't say cos you did this or cos I did this keep it impersonal - "because of the situation" not because of the person. good luck.
2007-06-17 03:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends what the argument was about really doesnt it. if its just s stupid argum,ent and u want to sort things out just grit ur teeth and bare it and say sorry, even if it wasn u in the wrong . life is to short en it and ur along time dead remember.
2007-06-17 05:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by haze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your the man grovel for a week (or a month if really bad) chocolates, flowers, hugs, sorry etc etc you know what to do.. if your the woman then cry or glare at husband...
hug and make up as soon as possible
2007-06-17 03:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by i give up 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋