I feel so empty without her. She was my soul mate, and I thought she was the one that I would be with forever. She knew all my dark secrets and I knew all of hers. Without her life seems useless. She was my best friend. I dont know what to do anymore.
2007-06-17 03:30:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You and she had your places in each others lifes...acknowledge and honor that. The two of you shared what you did, experienced, learned . . . that time on each others path was what it was, had it's place and then it was time for the two of you to step off each others path.
You are more than someone's past boyfriend, you are more than someone's child, someone's neighbor, co-worker etc. . . . You are also, very much so, your own person.
Give yourself the gift of not holding your own self emotional hostage to past experiences.
Think of this . . .What if you could peek into someone else's life today that you had touched on in the past. What if you saw that they were still stuck in those past experiences with you and was not moving forward in a productive celebrating way? Are'nt those of your past more than who they were with you? Are they not their own individual selfs apart from you?
You are keeping your own self attached to one who you are not right for...yet you effected her life in a way for growth in some way...honor and respect that...and move on. There's a book out on the market titled..." There's a reason it's called a break up...it was broken ". Harsh title, yet it speaks some truth.
You stating that you feel " empty " without her. Re-discover who you are as an individual. Honor what you shared with her and move forward with your life.
Look up " soul groups " and " soul families " and read of that. Yes, she might have been a dear part of your soul group...yet there is another who is meant to cherish your heart for the " forever " future.
I was married for 23 years...now peacefully divorced 4 yrs. I've healed from that relationship. I accept who my former husband was in my soul journey path. We experienced what we did...then I came to the thought to gift myself with celerating who I am as an individual and move forward in my life...new discoveries...new paths....new people...and other men who have expressed that they desire to be the one to cherish my heart. I'm still single as those men were not the right ones for me. The point I'm making is...a person can hear and move forward. And there are others that will see the light of your soul and heart.
Look up soul groups and soul families on the internet. See if that also helps with your understanding of what you shared with your girlfriend of past.
Peace to you.
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2007-06-17 03:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Best thing to do is to sit down and cry it all out and beat a punching bag if you have to. Then leave those feeling in a tissue or punching bag. But leave them there... After that find things that you always enjoyed doing by yourself. Because if you go the the movies or to places that you went together you will never be able to move on. Get a hobby that is what I had done when my husband told me that he no longer loved me. It took a little while but trust me there is life after a break up!!!
2007-06-17 03:35:30 · answer #2 · answered by davenlinshart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its gonna be the worst days of your life. the only thing you can do is think that there are a lot of girls out there. try to hang around with people that you like a lot, (friends, family, etc.) but never go to a bar and start whining like a little ******. its one of the most difficult things you could ever live through, but if you are lucky enough and you really like each other then chance are, you might be hooking up together again.
2007-06-17 03:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame that you guys broke up. take some time off for yourself to get over the stress, then try to find someone else. Just because you believe she was your soul mate it doesn't mean that you won't find anybody else. that person might even better than her. toughen up, tis not the end of the world.
:)
2007-06-17 03:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The lost puppy feeling will fade with time. If you want to wallow in self-pity, that's up to you, otherwise go out and start your life again. She probably is...
2007-06-17 03:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
find someone else. i know that, that sounds horrible but it's true. the quickest way to get over someone is to find someone else. Have fun and get your mind off of her.
2007-06-17 03:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by amy f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out there and find someone new. It can be daunting, but if you put yourself out there and just try to have fun, you'll find someone again maybe more than one. ;)
Good luck!
2007-06-17 03:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by NYC Stef 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get on with your life. you will meet someone else
2007-06-17 03:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moveon please. Stay close to positive friends. Discard negative influences such as alcohol, drugs and bad company.
2007-06-17 03:33:22 · answer #9 · answered by Bright 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time heal all wound.
2007-06-17 03:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by sarah@520 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋