he keeps asking about how much money I get. and once he said you should get your job first than we get married, and when I asked him if not he laughed and said so no marriage and I didnt know whether he was serious or not. but i feel that he focuses on my having a salary.
2007-06-17 03:29:57 · 14 answers · asked by lifeis good 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is a merger. It sounds to me like he is wanting to make sure that he is going to have a partner in all aspects of life, including financial.
Since it sounds like you don't have that much money as it is (you aren't employed yet?)....then I'm not thinking he is after you for your money....but he is wanting to be sure that you are going to financially contribute.
At least that's my read based on what you wrote....
2007-06-17 03:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's kinda hard to tell exactly if you have a job, or if you get a check from somewhere for not working or just what. Surely we all want security, and maybe he just wants to make sure that you are willing to pull your half of the load that a marriage takes. Think about it. It really takes alot of money to live these days. It is nice when you don't have to worry about the bills etc. Personally, I don't care about money much and I never have. As long as the bills are paid and we eat is good enough for me. But different strokes for different folks.
2007-06-17 03:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good chance.Money is a very good motivator of men and some women, whether its theirs or not. The only problem here is its actually two fold if hes after your money;1. getsit by marriage,and 2. still gets it by marriage ifit falls apart; called divorce. So either way youd better make realsure that you want to marry this guy especially with his comments. Forget the pre-nups by the way as they arent acknowledged in courts yet. Good luck
2007-06-17 03:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would hold off on the marriage part and find out for sure. I know that it is important to focus on a career before people are thinking of getting married and start having children, but not the way you described him. I am sure you already know and have heard before that there are plenty of fish in the sea and all of that so i wont tell you that route but I would definitely consider it. I know from my experience that when you are looking for that special someone you never find them, that they always come when you least expect them. Keep your chin up and please hold off on the marriage.
2007-06-21 01:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by jason l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds that way to me too. Here's how to test. Engineer a situation for him where you lose that big salary (get a mysterious phone call where he can hear, then complain that you're about to lose your lucrative job). See how he reacts -- that will tell you a lot about what his priorites are. And just between us, he better pass this test pretty convincingly, saying something like "I don't care if you never make another penny, I still love you," because up till now he sounds like a lazy-@zz gold-digger who wants you to support him. Good luck finding the truth, and don't wait to ditch this loser if he runs from you when you're in "trouble".
2007-06-17 03:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by David W 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
And why shouldn't he? Just after my wife decided she did not want to be married any more, She and her father told me that I was there meal ticket. That I would have to pay child support and Spousal support. Now that really pissed me off. I took her to court and proved her to be an unfit mother. I got custody and she has to pay child support. Now, I laugh at them every time i think about what they said. I told her to stay off the drugs.
2007-06-17 03:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by Bones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is logical. It`s hard nowadays for a couple to be living on one income alone. It is normal for you to be providing to the household economy. You would not marry a man who has no job right!
2007-06-17 03:39:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you felt it, it's logical and you are right in your feelings.
But beware he could read your question on Yahoo and tries to act as if he weren't interested in your salary till you get married.
IN adition:
You can test him in some ways to know him better.
People are getting more and more materialistic, hence auful.
2007-06-17 03:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by hy003002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are such people. Such men hope to marry women with money to support them because they are lazy and might not work after marriage.
2007-06-17 04:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe logical is the proper word. Please keep in mind that love does not have a price tag. PLEASE ensure that he has a job, and is able to stand on his own two feet, before EVER considering marriage!
2007-06-17 03:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋