Is it for fun,for time pass or there is something missing in their relationship with their partners that drives people into an extramaritial affair.Or Is it that everything is going well,its just that they have fallen in love with the other person.
2007-06-17 03:05:07 · 15 answers · asked by Twinkle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Usually something is missing in their relationship, it can be emotional, physical, even spiritual. Its a choice though and unfortunately its easier to get those needs met elsewhere then to actually talk and work on things for many people. While it's a choice to cheat it takes both people to create the relationship dynamic that either breaks down the communication or inhibits one another from getting what they need.
2007-06-17 03:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by zombiez8me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Affairs are usually about someone wanting to feel better about themselves for whatever reason.In the beginning, the excitement of an affair brings on a high, an elation, or exhilaration . You almost feel intoxicated with getting away with something that you know is sinful. Once the fascination wears thin then this "high" quickly turns into agitation, guilt and anxiousness. Reality sets in. This happens because affairs are selfish, they don't take into account how many others are hurt by this avaricious act. Then it becomes too late and you have to suffer the consequences of your self-serving behavior.
2007-06-17 10:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by llselva4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never had an affair, but I do have experience with a lot of people who have had them. Both of my parents did. My dad's affair was with a nurse. He went in for surgery, and my mom was dealing with her mother in another hospital who has cancer. She was going from one to the other. The nurse promised my dad pain medications to go home with her, and he did. That was within the first year of their marriage. My mom's affair was many years later. She said that it was something just for her, and she longed for a man to just be with her and treat her well. My dad was abusive. They divorced after 23 years. Other people have said that it is mainly because their spouse does not pay attention to them anymore. They are just plain unhappy. The worst excuse I've heard, is that they just wanted to because it would be fun. My personal favorite excuse is, well it just happend. That one is the biggest load of bull. But so many fall for it. My friends husband had as affair and left her and her three kids for another woman. He moved his affair to Cali, she lived in South Dakota. They just remarried this past Friday. Things had become unbearable for him at home. She even admitted that she did not treat him with respect, and she was nagging him all the time. Not a real good excuse to have an affair, but she gave him good reason not to want to be with her. The separation was good because they were both able to reevaluate how they wanted to live. I do not condone affairs, but living with what I have, I can tell you that it is not the worst thing that can happen.
2007-06-17 10:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE FOR CHEATING....I think it could be lots of different things. Let's put it this way, I know in my heart that my ex cheated because of something to do with him and not us. We were married on the younger side and were married for 11 years. I was totally caught off guard by his infidelity. If he had any problems with our life, he surely did not let me know. I think he was unhappy with himself and just blew it. I know he regrets what he did and has a pretty sad life to show for it. But he made his bed and he has to lay in it. But in his stupidity he destroyed a family and hurt our son and myself. We had always talked about how wrong cheating was and we both felt (at least I thought) very strongly about it. We always said, if you are not happy, get out and don't cheat....but he did anyways.
2007-06-17 10:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by Spaceyangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is lacking in there marriage. It could be intimacy. There are some that fall in love with the other person especially if they married at a young age.
2007-06-17 10:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by Theresa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, it's because at least you don't have to be tied down like a ball and chain. I mean you only see them once in a while. You don't have to cook,clean and iron for them every single day. Sometimes, they do it because they just feel unwanted and lonely and need someone to get their juices going.
2007-06-17 10:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by yopude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most times its because their's the excitement of something new. That there is something missing or just that the person doesnt wish to be faithful.
2007-06-21 08:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by jason l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when there is an emotional break down in a marriage it cam bring in thoughts of emotional support from someone else.
2007-06-17 10:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by davenlinshart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the sin called lust. They get tempted with it and they don't run from it like they should.
2007-06-17 16:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,the thrill factor.
2007-06-17 10:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by havanadig 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋