i have been married for 14 years but my husband is really controlling.Last year he got stationed in Germany and i really did not wanna go , but i did i cause he was always talking about divorce.Over there is really hard to get a job and i have not worked for a year.So because he is all controlling and after a big fight when he gave me a concution...i came back and i am staying with his mom...but he is tripping he wants me backin germany and he told his mom if i dont come back he is gonna divorce me..she feels all guilty and i and i can feel it she dont want me here anymore...i have a chance to work but she lives in the country and now there is only one car and she will not share that one with me..she already told me that i need to go back to my husband... whats wrong with been selfish after 14 years ...dont i deserve tobe happy too??? all they care is about him!!!
2007-06-17 02:51:19 · 5 answers · asked by monpetit_2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband should NOT be threatening you with divorce. You should NEVER allow a man to threaten you, even if it's just verbally. Furthermore, you should NEVER let ANYONE physically abuse you. Him giving you a concussion indicates that he has anger issues and THAT is what he needs to have control of, not you. I'm sorry that your relationship has come to this, but divorcing him sounds like it'd be beneficial for you.
2007-06-17 03:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by Kori spelled backwards is Irok 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he continues to threaten you with divorce, tell him to go ahead! You don't sound too happy with the idea of going back to him anyway. You are right, you DO deserve happiness, and it doesn't sound as if you are going to find it by going back to what sounds very much like an abusive relationship. If his mother does not want you living with her anymore, there must be someone else who will give you a place to stay until you can get a job and get on your feet. You really do need to think of yourself now, and work towards your own happiness. Please do not let anyone pressure you into doing what you know is going to make you unhappy. Good luck.
2007-06-17 05:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to choices #1 Stay and put up with being unhappy and miserable or #2 The opposite of #1*........
2007-06-17 10:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if you don't want to go to Germany, don't go!
If he doesn't love you enough to come be with you, then you might not want to be with him.
Or, just talk to him about it...but that sometimes might not work.
Good luck!
2007-06-17 03:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by G00gleB0ggl3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have anyone else to stay with?
any friends? sounds like your in a tuff spot
maybe try to meet someone else and go with them.
2007-06-17 03:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by Richie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋