like diy and moving large furnature etc. how do they do it. it must be totally depressing.
2007-06-17 02:40:16 · 13 answers · asked by lonely as a cloud 6 in Home & Garden ➔ Other - Home & Garden
they do it by letting their kids roam around the streets so they don't have to deal with them
they do it by not bothering to cook because they just buy in ready cooked junk food
they do it by scrounging as much off their ex husbands and the state as they possibly can
easy once you know how.
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2007-06-17 02:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 7⤋
Number one....you gotta have friends!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lj9wg7gTRdQ
Seriously, I am a single mom (have been for 34 years). And for the majority of that time, I have not had a roommate or anyone to help me. That's where the friends come in. Find a friend you can share the big projects with, such as moving the big furniture, painting, fix-it jobs. You can help each other out.
Second, barter for services. Do you have a special talent, such as cooking or sewing? Find someone who will do what you need done in exchange for your talents.
Enlist the kids to help you around the house. Even the little ones can keep their toys picked up.
Most of all, don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Being independent is wonderful, but not at the risk of hurting yourself or by making matters worse by attempting to do something you're not able to do.
2007-06-17 02:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by GracieM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really tough. But women are stronger than you think. If I could not do something myself, being a woman it wasn't too hard to find a guy to help out.
I don't think it is hard on just the mums. The kids find it awfully hard too.
In a perfect world, I wish we all thought a lot more about the consequences of marriage rather than just rushing into it and regretting it later.
I also wish there the schools taught courses about relationships, marriage and family issues as a prerequisite to marriage. .
2007-06-17 02:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by JP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well take it from a single mom of 2 girls, have been single for 10 years. It is quite challenging, but I do manage, thank God I was raised on a farm, I am quite strong. Now my girls are older and can help me with various things. I burn wood, and am afraid of heights, so my 15 year old cleans the chimney for me. We work as a team. Its not depressing, just challenging!
2007-06-17 02:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by helper 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I manage really well thanks. I do have a friend or 2 to help when I need it but I have become much more able to cope with little jobs around the house. Its a necessity and I am so proud of myself and the thousands of other single mums like me
2007-06-17 02:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a funny question, Im not a single mum, I have a one year old daughter and my husband, we run a business that is open from 9am until 10pm at night, we take it in shifts at the shop and look after our one year old daughter.we live abroad, so we dont have any family to help out with childminding... just cause im a woman does not mean Im no good at D I Y.... any woman is capable of doing what one may call a "mans job"
2007-06-17 02:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by looby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It the same as single dads. You have some friends to help you move. Some have children too, and this an added plus for doing things together.
2007-06-17 02:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really insulted by achrimsdales reply. I a single mother of two boys, I had no choice but to kick my ex out as he abused our son, BUT I PICKED MYSELF, got a part time job to fit in with their schooling at first and then went into full time work. Perhaps I was one of the lucky ones to be able to do this but NOT ALL SINGLE MUMS live on benefits and NONE of them want to be living on benefits and struggling to provide for their kids. how dare you be so insulting you nasty person
Yes its a struggle to do especially on benefits but I did it. I learnt to service my car. change tyres, paint and decorate, tiling, lay carpets. you name it I tried.
My boys are adults now and have been taught how to cook clean and washing their own clothing as well as ironing it. Its great to home home from work and find a cuppa ready for me and sometimes the tea cooked .
Its a case of I can do it and make it fun for the kids at the same time, try letting the kids help with the washing up, cleaning and dusting little things at first and make it all fun, gotta say my youngest is so house proud now he puts me to shame and I'M PROUD of him. If you've gotta live on benefits for a while so n=be it but never be ashamed of it, just focus on the future and plan your life . go for it hun and don't let bigots like achrimsdale get you down, sometimes things can't be helped and we need that extra help. obviously achrimsdale has never experienced life changing sadness, poor thing
2007-06-17 05:20:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It beats me! I am a mere man, but i do marvel at some of the things that single mums manage to cope with... because they have no choice probably. go girls!
2007-06-17 02:54:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you are brought up.My dad taught me so
I will have a go at anything.If I fail I call an odd job man also some men are useless at diy.
2007-06-17 02:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've got several friends that cope just fine. Perhaps your problems go deeper than the old flat pack.
2007-06-17 02:45:27 · answer #11 · answered by Saccharin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋