Custody battle gone bad. New court appointed shrink says I am selfish for not moving closer. Rich neighborhood and I can't afford it. Have good paying job here. Says I'm justifying my selfish ways by saying I can't because of financial reasons. If I do I could go totally bankrupt and be really in the hole. I can afford to visit every other month of fly kids here if I stay with job and location.
2007-06-17 01:39:25 · 6 answers · asked by mauiniki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Court appointed shrinks can be bought off by the opposition. Are you COMPLETELY sure that this hasn't happened here? I would be doing everything I could to see if there is any connection between this guy and your ex...maybe a payment history on your ex's (or his closest family's) accounts? It may take your hiring a private investigator to find out.
2007-06-17 01:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by Susie Q 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's interesting that you don't have custody of your children and have a court appointed psychologist. My guess is that you may have ran away from your responsibilities and are enjoying your freedom. This does not make you a bad person. When my niece separated from her husband, she enjoyed the freedom of not having to take care of her children full-time. It was quite an adjustment for her when she reunited with hubby and had to care for her own children full-time. Taking care of children is an enormous responsibility that many people just can't handle. There are thousands of fathers out there who have very limited contact with their own children, yet those very men aren't subjected to having a court appointed psychologist. But society doesn't feel the same way when it's a woman. My guess is that you are not capable of handling any more responsibility than you already have. It doesn't make you any more or less selfish than a man who does the same. Tell that to the shrink.
2007-06-17 08:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Court appointd shrink sounds like a real jerk. If you can't afford to move, then DON'T MOVE! Save your money for the important things, like food and clothing for you and your kids. You didn't say how far away you are. If it is a couple hundred miles, you should be able to find a place halfway between where they are and where you are now. You should file a complaint on that shrink, they shouldn't be judging you like that.
2007-06-17 08:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to do what you can do. If you can't afford to move then don't do it. If you have to move then get another job to pay for the extras.
By the way, I hope YOU didn't find the shrink. I've never heard of one telling their client that they are selfish. You do what you have to do for you and your kids.
2007-06-17 08:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make some sacrifices. But if you cannot afford it then you can not. You have to look out for yourself too. Does not hurt to look for good employeement there while you are still her. It is easier now days on the net to put in for jobs. Maybe you will get lucky and find one.
2007-06-17 09:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dont be crazy. who cares what they say if you know you really cant afford it then dont put yourself through any more uneeded stress.
2007-06-17 08:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by alwaysthinkingclearly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋