I'm 20, I basically have no friends. I'm uneasy around people if there is no task to complete (such as a job or a school project) and have never really had friends my whole life. I don't know how to make a friend or be a friend, let alone have a girlfriend. I want to have a family some day, but I really don't see it happening at this rate. What should I do? This makes me very sad sometimes :((
2007-06-17 00:38:55 · 9 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You're bound to break out of your shyness sometime, because one day and hopefully that one day is soon for you, you're going to get sick of being shy and really want to try and push yourself to become social.
Try practicing on people you're already acquainted with then try to apply that to random people when you're in an atmosphere for meeting new people.
Build up your confidence, and remember that you shouldn't fear anyone here on Earth. Make small talk with them, and then build from there. If the person doesn't engage in making small talk with you then just tell yourself, "their loss." Move on to the next person who will talk to you.
Now go out there and make some friends, and build on your social life! ^_^
Here is a tip: Carry an mp3 player/ipod/ cell phone around so you can always have some activity to do if you get to shy to talk to people.
2007-06-17 02:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy if you have a job begin to make friends there.
Then join a softball team, or a bowling league to make some friends.
hang out at a bar. Got to a gym. When one of the people in your town runs for elected office volunteer to help out you will make friends that way
So many opportunities. Never be depressed about what you cannot control. Because when you apply yourself you will be the utlitmate winner.
Good luck
You have internet friends see and now to step up for some social contact friends.
2007-06-17 00:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by Michael M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried or attempted joining groups? How about sports? It's a good way to start developing your whole being. I have a friend who developed her social skills when she took basketball for p.e. in college. Sometimes you have to sacrifice things to be able to achieve the things you want. Those things could be those things that hinders you in breaking out your shell. And have courage! Be confident! Set aside your fears for a while. Don't be afraid to try out new things. Besides. you have to start somewhere right. Just do it one step at a time.
2007-06-17 01:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out and find a group to volunteer with around your town. You will meet and interact with all kinds of people. Who knows, you may even find a special someone.
2007-06-17 00:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by F T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey dude
sounds like you had a pretty enclosed child hood....weren't allowed to do much...or your real insecure....
You sound smart....did you go to high school and everything? are you normally in areas where you can meet people?
I love meeting new people all the time....I am very open and i love to talk haha
My job involves seeing a lot of new faces each day...
Do you work?
:)
2007-06-17 00:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
right go out and have a drink in a pub and go to that pub every week become a regular and u will always make freinds they will introduce u to more people and soon u will have lots of freinds
2007-06-17 00:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by The real quagmire BBC Three 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should play world of warcraft or something like that it will make it easier for you to socialize with other people
2007-06-17 00:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by quatre_khushrenada 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
you have to gather with other people coz no man stand alone.
2007-06-17 00:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by myr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Binge and Purge baby Binge and Purge...all of the cool kids are doing it!!
2007-06-17 00:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by balf f 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋