i started going to the gym 2 months ago, and theres something that really bothers me, i get a lot of attention from other guys, guys who have better bodies . why is that?? there are like 4 guys who just keep looking at me, the other day one of them said hi to me. im not gay, so i was thinking that perhaps some of them are.
2007-06-16 18:53:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It might not be what you think at all. I'm a personal fitness trainer, and many times I'll notice people who are trying to lift more weight than they can handle or using poor form--there's a lot of alpha male attitude in a gym! It's possible they see something that you're doing wrong, and are at odds with whether or not they should say anything to you. On the other hand, if you're training safely, you might also be doing movements that are new to them--you can learn a lot about how to enhance your own workouts by watching others. If you couldn't, I'd be out of business!
There are any number of reasons why they might be watching you, and being gay is only one of them.
My advice is to smile and say "hello" back. Don't be intimidated by anyone--no one can get inside someone else's head, which means that none of us know anyone else's intentions. The only way is to communicate! Ask them for a spot. Offer to spot one of them if you see them struggling. Some people spend a good portion of their day in the gym, so they tend to allow it to be part of their social circle.
Let's say they are gay. So what? Show them respect at LEAST for being human beings. If they were to ever hit on you, you are then in a position to respectfully decline and explain that you're heterosexual. They're far less likely to be bitter about it if they don't feel completely rejected, and you'll probably find that they continue to treat you with kindness.
2007-06-17 04:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by writersblock73 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
regardless whether some are gay or not, what is your problem..no one has done anything but be friendly towards you..what would you prefer..them to totally ignore you? I go to the gym daily, watch other people more for how and what they are doing than anything, I am gay, but cruise no one at a gym, period. I have stopped many from hurting themselves by bad use of equipment. I have been trained well, used to own a gym, and offer help to those who I see need it..before they get hurt. You are so paranoid...or egotisitcal, that you think everyone is cruising you... I seriously doubt it. Do you really think, even if you were cruised, that the person wouldn't get the hint if you ignored them???? What is your problem here.?
2007-06-16 19:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men do this at some level in a gym environment. Most of it is harmless comparing of each other.
You say these men have "better bodies" than you. That probably is in your opinion only. When a man (of any orientation) looks, he admires. There is something about you that these men admire. It may be that you keep fit, it may be your hairiness, it may be your "presence," it may be your handsomeness. When that one guy said hi to you -- he went beyond just looking -- that means he admires something about you so much he crosses that normal male line of keeping to himself and wants to get to know you better. He is probably not sexualizing anything in this at all.
2007-06-16 20:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a poofter but i go to the gym aswell and i will watch other people working out. For any of the following reasons maybe pick up tips or new ways to work out, perhaps because i'm impressed at what they are lifting i have seen people with a less impressive body than me and lifting much more than me also i looked at people who are doing stuff wrong to perhaps give them advice and people who go in thinking they are solid who try to lift too much and look like fanny because it gives me a laugh. could be any of these reasons.
2007-06-17 00:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So a guy at the gym said hi to you? Will the madness ever stop! A man saying hi to another man in public. Where is the Rev Phelps when you need him.
2007-06-16 19:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by QforU For Da Ben Dan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They could be gay, or just be nice.
Say hi back, strike up a conversation. If they are gay all you have to say is that you're not.
But you'll make some gym buddies, which can be great to keep you motivated.
2007-06-17 04:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible. Not much you can do about the situation except ignore them. If one of them becomes too friendly for comfort then just talk about a fine gym bunny's buns, they should get the hint!
2007-06-16 18:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by Macro 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So...maybe they are..so what?
Why does it bother you?
Why can't men just learn to be flattered when another man thinks they are attractive? I don't get it.
Just because they look at you doesn't mean you'll turn gay if you accept the compliment...gees!
You must be fairly Manly..if they find you attractive...it's a friggin compliment! HOLYCOW!
What a twisted world we all live in.
2007-06-16 18:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by DEATH 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are not gay, what is the problem? So some guys are looking at you. Grow up.
2007-06-16 19:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haha... dude... your probably 100% WRONG!
Chances are they admire you for your effort in the gym, they have studied your physique & see your potential & if anything they probably want to help you achieve you goals if you don't know what your doing.....if anyone is thinking 'gay' its you.
2007-06-16 20:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by MJR 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋