What do you do when someone disappoints you...?

Question

try to be understanding....or let them know how you feel?

Answer 1

both, i let them know how i feel and why, and i try to be understanding, if it's that important to me. ;)

Answer 2

It depends on the situation. Most of the time I try to be understanding though

Answer 3

Both! You can try to understand their point of view and still tell them how their actions made you feel. Then let it go and move on.

Answer 4

i think you have to let them know how you feel in a gentle way, but still be understanding of their circumstances. don't jump on them, or pour your entire self on them, making them go on a huge guilt trip. a little of both will make it much better, because if you try to be "understanding" and just hold it in, it builds. and builds. and it'll get worse. so let them know.

Answer 5

I do try to talk to them, sometimes we can work it out. Sometimes, it doesn't work out that way. And sometimes, if there are huge differences of opinion that can't be resolved, it's time to move away, and move on. You always hope that doesn't happen though.

Answer 6

Delivering a good,sound bludgeoning always seems to make me feel better,it also seems to eliminate recurrences.

Answer 7

I'll tell them on how I feel.....then I'll try to be understanding.

Answer 8

try to deal with it but if the feelings are too raw.. let it go

Answer 9

...both...if I believe the situation can be made better, I'll speak up...but there have been times when it would be a totally hopeless cause to say anything, then I leave it to it' own demise

Answer 10

let them know how i feel, which I just got done doing.. feel relieved yet feel shi**y about it... I'm tired of being understanding...