My aunt and uncle are having their first child. It is a boy and they've chosen to name him Christopher Raymond. Christoper is my aunt's brother's name. And Raymond is after my uncle's grandfather's name and also similar to his own middle name (Ray). The problem I have with this name is Ray is a popular name in my family (It's my middle name as well Rae) and I just think it's too much. And I have problem with Christopher because the brother comitted suicide. I feel that it's a bad omen for the child. Am I right? Or is it ok to name the child after someone who took their own life?
2007-06-16 18:08:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
Ok...I may have seemed harsh in my writting, It is their decision, but I just see it as a bad omen. I'm not placing any judgement on her brother or her...I just see it as...a bad reminder if you will.
2007-06-16 18:16:52 · update #1
Personally, I would not name my child after someone who took their own life, although I will mention that people who take their own lives obviously feel as if they have good reason to do so. It seems very clear the soon-to-be mother misses her brother very much and wishes to honor his memory by naming her first-born son after him. I agree with you totally on a matter of personal choice, but please rememberd to respect their wishes as he will be their son, not yours. May you have a healthy cousin!
2007-06-16 18:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not to sound harsh, but in all honesty it doesn't matter what you think about the name they have chosen for their child.
It sounds like they have put a lot of thought into naming the baby and they have chosen names that hold special significance to the two of them.
If you try to "talk them out of it" odds are you will just come off as rude!
As far as naming a child after a loved one who committed suicide...I really don't believe it is a bad "omen." Their son will be a unique individual with his own morals, ambitions, beliefs and values. He won't go through life shadowing the actions of another person just because he happens to share the same name!!
2007-06-17 01:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by western b 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be concerned, but not necessarily because it's an omen. It's always difficult on everyone involved when you name children after one that passed away, especially from the same generation, because you fill that child with a lot of expectations which can only end in disappointment. And, as the child grows older and learns of the circumstances of their naming, they may find it to be a large burden on them to fill this gap in the lives of their family members, which is too much for anyone to attempt, so yes, you should be concerned.
2007-06-17 03:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by Professortemple 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're sweet to be concerned, but naming him after a suicide won't influence him to commit suicide. That depends on his disposition and the events of his life. He doesn't even have to know that his namesake commited suicide until he's grown, but even if he does before then, there's the will to live/sense of separate identity most of us have between him and that. They probably just want to honor the brother's memory.
2007-06-17 01:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by yeahyeah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its their perogative to name the baby whatever they want. Don't try to pin any judgement on the name choice, if she wants to honor the loss of her brother then let her. Maybe she isn't so judgemental of those who feel they have no other way out than to commit suicide.
2007-06-17 01:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by parental unit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hon, it isn't your decision.
My daughter is expecting a baby and wants to name it after her brother, my son who died years ago... If a girl Aryn or Aronn. if it is a boy Aaron.
I am not sure I can deal with it, but it is not my desicion.
think of it as honoring the person
2007-06-17 09:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that this is not your child and while i would not name my child after someone who took his own life it's not my place to say they are wrong. she may want this name b/c of the positive impact your uncle had on her life. bottom line it's her choice
2007-06-17 01:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by miranda - 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um...I wouldn't unless I really loved and idolized this person. But suicide would really put me off. So I wouldn't do this. I plan to use my husband's name for our first boy, but it's not common in his family or mine. Ray does seem to be overused...and I personally think they could be more creative than Christopher Raymond.
2007-06-17 01:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The family misses him very much and no matter how he died you should still love him just the same. I think it sounds like a very cute name.
2007-06-17 01:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by Wendie 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
perhaps your Aunt doesn't choose to remember her brother in the negative way YOU do.
it's her kid...her choice bottom line.
2007-06-17 01:27:34 · answer #10 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋