I'm on top of a high building with both my sons the oldest is 2 the yougest 2 months and I'm trying to keep them from falling off I'm holding my baby in my arms and my 2 year old with my legs and he keeps slipping sometimes my 2 year old falls and I swear I can't breathe sometimes in the dream I go after him this keeps happening some days I just close my eyes and because this dream scared me so bad it's still implanted in my head and it's like a daydream only I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack and how can I stop this dream I hate it I don't want to sleep but it's gotten so bad that I see it when I'm awake.
2007-06-16 18:00:17 · 5 answers · asked by fluttergirl2004 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hi, I don't know your situation but, can I ask, are you a single mum?
(This sounds much like the sort of recurring dream I used to have when I was alone with 2 young boys of the same age.
I since learned that it was my own personal inner fear of losing my sons to their estranged father and his family..... which I might add was very far fetched and truly only in my own subconcious mind....
I gained the strength to overcome this feeling through love and support.)
Now 10 years on, and my strapping sons are sitting here with me happy as ever.
2007-06-18 06:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think dreams have something to do with the thoughts that we carry with us when we go to sleep. Since you have had the dream a number of times & it bothers you it remains in your thought & it continues. One good thing that is going on here is that you are remembering your dreams. The next step is for you to become aware that you are dreaming durng the dream. The is a good bit of material online aboout Lucid or Conscious dreaming, take a lot at it. Once you are aware that you are dreaming you can literally change the dream. As you child falls you can stretch your arms like rubber & grab him. Or you can just fly down & swoop him up in yoour arms. As soon as you bring you child to safety, you will not longer focus on this and the dream will not continue since it will no longer be in your thoughts. http://www.lucidity.com/ - A starting point for you.
2007-06-16 18:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by Flying_James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are trying to protect them from whatever is below. Maybe you are trying to protect them from getting hurt in the "real world" and are saddened at their first major upsets.
A dream is a dream and meant to be interpreted in whichever way you choose. You are trying to protect your kids and that's what matters most. You're a good parent. Let go a little as kids must be kids and sometimes the best lessons are learned by getting a little hurt during the process.
2007-06-16 18:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by Chloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a really protective mom, and you really care about your kids, and you feel inadequate at being able to raise them and take care of them like you think you should. You feel overwhelmed by your responsibilities to your children, and you have no idea how to relax and trust that everything is going to be okay.
Paula Deen confessed to Oprah that she was so scared of everything bad that could happen she confined herself to her house for twenty years. She said that once she accepted her death, and the death of her sons, that death was a part of life and was a natural part of our process of learning, she was able to let go of her fears and live again.
It's hard, but you need to accept that bad things can and will happen whether you can prevent them or not. But death can't be all that terrible. Death is a lot like being in a dream, but your soul returns to God and resides in peace until the day of resurrection.
Bad things will happen, but you are not a terrible mother because bad things happen. You can not control all of your son's choices in their lives, but you can try as much as you can to guide them in the right direction.
Try in your dreams to ask Jesus to help you, to send you angels to help you. Try asking him for the door to the stairs to get down from the building. Try seeing if you can fly if you jump! You are so afraid, it is preventing you from seeing other options.
You cannot die in dreams, you know. Try seeing if you can fly, and try teaching your sons to fly with you, so that the next time it is not the terrible end, but a launching point to the next phase of learning and experiences.
2007-06-16 18:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by enn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its something that happen in your past life
2007-06-16 18:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by christina v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋