At what age did you FIRST notice that you were attracted to members of your own gender?

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Why do you recall this moment of realization?

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(I was eight.)

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Answer 1

Great question!
I was seven years old living in Germany (Army brat). The older dutch boy (eight years old) who live in another apartment building across from us eventually became my boyfriend.....I mean boyfriend. I also became close friends of an older German girl (same age as the Dutch boy). I mean really close friends!
I assumed this to be accepted natural behavior (I didn't understand what "bisexuality" meant) until we moved back to the States. Wow....things changed quickly then. But that's another story. So, to answer your question, 7 was the age I knew I was attracted to the same sex.
Peace be with you...Vinny.

Answer 2

Never came to a true realization that I was "gay" until around 16 when I was constantly being called a "fag" for my disinterest in sports and violence...

I always thought that my way of "being" was totally normal before that... I thought that I would have to get married and stuff like everybody else and I thought all guys enjoyed their male friends more than their wives....
Sometimes I still wonder about that.... jk

I believe that Gay Marriage (or some kind of recognition) should be made available on a federal level because it's just another step in the civil rights movement...

People can't understand how bad it hurts a kid to find out that a good chunk of the world will hate them because of something they can't change....

Answer 3

hmm good question. The earliest gay thing with me was in grade 2 a whole group of guys (me included) snuck into a room connected to our classroom and umm did a bit of show and tell. Then really nothing except for a few occastions of wanting to gang bang with some of my friends. (I still didn't realise that I was at least bi) Then year 8 and 9 when I was looking at P9rn I always cared more about the guy (it was str8 porn). Year 10 was the realisation. Before then I thought its a phase. Year 11 was the denial stage... where I thought if I look at only lesbian p9rn I may be str8 ... it didn't work every time it was only a matter of time before gay p9rn appeared on my screen. Year 12 was the acception phase ... it was also the phase I started calling myself bi.

Answer 4

I can remember the first time that I fell in love with another guy. I was only five years old. Of course, I wasn't sure then what love was. But I knew that I really liked this guy. He was a basketball player in the eighth grade. Blonde hair, brown eyes and a beautiful smile. His name was Lane. My mom was the cheerleader sponsor, so I traveled with them everywhere. I use to sit in his lap on the bus with my arms around him. He carried me around with him when he could. Now he wasn't a perv or anything. Just a nice guy with a girlfriend. It was also the first time I figured out what jealousy was. I remember I cried when he moved on up to the ninth grade and no longer was on the team bus. It was a few years later before I really understood what it meant. But he was and I guess in some ways is still my dream guy.

Answer 5

I think I was four years old actually.

I knew I had a crush on this girl who was a couple of years older. I wanted her to like me so badly. Not just as a friend, but something more than just a friend....granted at that time, I had no idea what that feeling meant.
I had no idea about sex or anything like that.
All I knew was I really liked her much more than my other friends...and we weren't all that close as friends either.
Later on I noticed that my friendships were more like crushes.
Again, I still didn't know what those feelings meant at all.
I was never molested, I had no sexual experiences until I was 17yrs old actually!
(and even then...I only had sex with a guy because I thought that's what was expected of me...since I was a girl...)

Answer 6

I find the use of the word "straight" to be condoscending (what are gays, "bent?") so I'll refrain from describing my own sexuality with that term. So I'll just say that for all intents and purposes, I'm heterosexual.

But I'm also honest.

I've been a bodybuilder ever since my body was manufacturing the right hormones. So I know well what it's like to admire Arnold's chest and calves, while also finding beauty in the symetry of Bob Paris (who, by the way, is gay). As a bodybuilder, ALL guys look at other guys' bodies and find something about them that we like. Every Jack one of us.

It's been clinically proven that most men get more aroused while watching porno that has a man with the woman, as opposed to lesbian-only scenes. Nine out of ten guys have more blood flow to their genitals if there's a guy to relate to!

Commedian Ron White had it right: We're all gay. It's just a matter of degree.

For me, that means that I can find absolute beauty in the male physique, yet without conflict I feel no desire to have intercourse with them. Admitting this also makes me really not care if someone else is gay or not--what they do in their own homes has nothing to do with me. And I wish them all the happiness they can stand!

Answer 7

I had to have been at least five or six. I never mentioned it to anyone (especially my parents), but watching Gordon Scott and Johnny Weissmuller and Jock Mahoney playing Tarzan, and Steve Reeves and Reg Park playing Hercules gave me these fluttery, warm butterflies in my stomach that I really, REALLY liked. I never even knew what they were or why they were there. I just knew how much I liked the feeling, and instinctively knew that I should keep it to myself.

I know now that's why at eight, I always tried to get some of the cute neighbor boys to play "gladiator" or "Tarzan" with me and wrestle. In our underwear. Unfortunately, (or maybe fortunately) most of my attempts proved to be highly unsuccessful...

:-)

Answer 8

I remember having crushes on celebs like Catherine Bach (the original Daisy Duke) and Sara Gilbert (Darlene on Roseanne) when I was younger.

My first real-life crush was when I was in 5th grade. Her name was Deadra, & she was in the 6th grade. I had never had such strong feelings for anyone before, & I mistook my crush on her for feelings of hatred. I was extremely mean to her, & she didn't understand why. When I found out her family was moving out of state, I hated the notion that I would never get to see her again. It was then that I realized I actually admired her. In the weeks before she left, I apologized to her for being so mean. She forgave me, & was very sweet & understanding about everything. Then two years later, I developed another crush on a girl named Elissa in my science class. That was around the time that I hit puberty, & I would fantasize about kissing & touching her. Year after year, I developed crushes on girls. It wasn't until I was 17 that I realized exactly what that meant. I was a lesbian.

Answer 9

As far back as I can remember I always prefered looking at men than women. When I realized i was gay was in elementry school, I think the 5th grade. There was this guy, Brad, he was so cute. I would think about him all the time, and was so jelous of the attention he gave to the girls. Before that I always thought that I admired men, and idolized them. Oh yes and a poster at Spencers Gifts, OMG I never bought it but every time we went to the mall I had to go see this poster, and I had to be young then, becuase I remember looking up at it.

Answer 10

When I was 15, my girlfriend had just split up with me and I got depressed and looked on the internet for 'sex change' (lol), I'd had the feeling since I was younger that I wanted to be a girl but it was only then I realised that I am female. So technically most of my life really, lol again :D