I cry myself to sleep...?

Question

okay, when i was 9 my parent decided to move to canada from the united states...so, we moved. everything was fine and all, until my dad decided that it was for the best for him to go back to the united states, becase of his job (math competitions master + computer engineer). there he went...sice that day and on, i only saw him in summer times for about 2 months. I always told my dad he would be living wşth us next year, and it never happened. He never lives with us. I,m 13 but just turned 13 a couple weeks ago. I've been with my dad for the last two days, and i still cry myself to sleep because i know, we will leave him soon. Whenever someone says 'dad' i feel like crying. How come i dont have a happy family? Why are we broken up? If he loves me, why is he not with me?

As my mom always says, say please and thank you.
Thank you, everyone. And i really dont think they are having a problem with their marrıge. The first three answers, thanks alot, again.

Answer 1

Good for you.

Answer 2

Hunny, I really feel for you, My dad was in the merchant navy and used to go away for months at a time. It's so hard when someone you love isn't there, and it never gets easier. I'm 22 and have lived away from home for 6 yrs, and still miss my parents when i don't see them.

Just because you dad is away, doesn't mean you don't have a happy family. my parents were apart for months at a time for years, and they are the happiest married couple I have ever seen.

Have you spoken with your dad about how you feel. Does he know how much you miss him? I'm sure you'll find that he misses you just as much. Unfortunately parents sometimes don't have the choices that we think they do, and they have to do things they don't like, because they know that in the long term it's the best solution.

The biggest lessons we ever have to learn are that life isn't fair, and sometimes we have to do painful things to make sure the ones we love are safe. Trust that your parents love you very much, and that they know the reasons that they have done what they have done. make the most of the time with your dad, because although you will always be his little girl, the time that you have together now will be the most precious of your life, and you need to be strong for him. Think about how much harder it must be for him to do what he knows to be right when he can see how much it hurts you. You have to be strong for him.

Chin up, brave face, big smile, and you will make your dad the happiest man on earth.

Answer 3

No one has the perfect family. Some people put themselves before their family. It might start out as,what they think, will be a good thing, and it changes into a bad thing. He might have wanted to give you a better life financially and ended up liking that more than being with his family. If there is a way you can spend time together that would be great. Maybe get (for christmas or something) the video that you can see each other when you talk on the phone before you go to bed. Maybe the computer cameras, something like that.

Answer 4

i'm sorry to hear that this is happening to you. Never for a second think that your father left because he doesn't love you. I really can't answer your other questions without making assumptions. I think to get the proper answers to those questions you should talk to your parents to see where they are coming from. It is perfectly normal to be upset and miss your dad, but don't worry so much about when you have to leave. Enjoy they time you are spending with him. Explain to your parents how this effecting you. Your parents love you and want to make you happy, i'm sure if they knew about this they would try to work something out so that you could see your dad more. Best of luck

Answer 5

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I think you should talk to your dad and tell him how you feel. Maybe you all can move back with him to the US or maybe he can get a job in Canada. Tell him that you really need him in your life and you don't feel like he is "there" when you all aren't together under one roof. Fell better and I hope it all works out for you.

Answer 6

Have you spoken to him about this? If not tell him what you told us. Ask him why he is not home. Maybe there are things that he has been needing to talk to you about but been scared or worried about bringing them up. Some times moms and dads get scared or nervous about stuff to. It is important that you talk to your mom and dad and get some answers even if it is not what you want to hear. Go on and talk to them right now.

Answer 7

i am so sorry that this is happening to you. i have a feeling that there is more to this story than you probably know. it sounds like maybe your parents were having a rough time in their marriage and they decided that maybe it was better to live apart. talk to your dad and tell him what you told us. maybe there is a reason that he's not with you. not that his reason would make it right, but you should at least tell him how you feel.

Answer 8

not to upset you or any thing but before my parents got divorced my dad separated himself from the rest of the family like yours is doing. shortly after that he walked out on us completely and i haven't talked to or seen him since but thats beside the point. sorry but i think something may be wrong in the marriage. what else could it be. like what man could love their job that much to leave their family. if its business trips i understand but if hes living in a different country then you thats more then just for business

Answer 9

i know its hard, but you shuld learn to make the most of the time that you have with him. i dont live with both my parents. i lived with my daddy between the ages of 5 till the week before i turned 17. now i live with my mother. i feel like crying alot because i feel like my mother doesnt like me at all. but i cant leave here, i have a reason for staying. but i do call and talk to the people that raised me. we talk about the good times that we have and it really does make it better. i aint saying thats it easy because it really aint, but just have fun, cherish the times with your dad, and remember them later when yuo feel like crying. its also okay to cry sometimes. that helps me too.

do you have someone there that you can relate to and talk to about anything? i would say just talk to them. it helps to make u fel better too

Answer 10

Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain. Take a minute to think about that, and then maybe you will understand what you have to do. Don't just jump to assumptions.