why is it that when theres a divorce some kid will like the other parent better??

Answer 1

1. They feel one parent has rejected them.
2. They try to pit one parent against another to get what they want.
3. Some parents make the other parent look bad.
4. Parents argue over things.
5. Children blame parent for breakup.

The list could go on.

Answer 2

I think it is normal for any child to go through stages when he or she likes one parent better than the other. In normal development, a preschool child tends to bond more with the opposite sex parent, then switches his or her attention to the same sex parent during the elementary school years (as teenagers, they just hate both parents). But in an intact household, these little favoritisms do not stir up any kind of trouble, because the parents are a team and have a united front. In a divorce situation, the child can feel pressure to choose sides, and ordinary developmental bonds can turn into an inappropriate favoring of one parent. The more unhealthy the divorce, the more the parents might promote this behavior by trying to buy the child with material things, or excessive permissiveness, or manipulating the child by acting like a 'friend' instead of a parent. Often it is the better parent who winds up being the bad guy, because that parent is the one who maintains rules and boundaries and does not manipulate. Divorce throws the entire family into chaos, and one symptom of that is the abnormal favoritism you describe.

Answer 3

The child will probably prefer the child that does not leave. Perhaps it is because they feel safe and loved and has daily contact with them.

Or, it could because they overhear a parent bad mouthing the other one, so the child will form a more negative idea about the parent as well.

Answer 4

my parents are seperated right now.

I'm 13

one night my mom through me into the edge of a counter and my back hurt for soo long. One night i was crying really hard because she was drunk and made my dad move out and i had to watch him move out. I was holding my blankets and crying so hard i couldnt breathe and i was gasping for air. She came in and said, "what the hell are you doing?? want me to get tou a f ucking knife so you can cut your wrists??" I ended up cutting my wrists and havent stopped.

so when things like that happen..kids choose sides because they feel more safe with different parents.

Answer 5

When you can hear the arguments and know why they are divorcing, you will kinda pick a side on who was right.

Answer 6

the kid will think my *** divorced my *** and they'll most likely like the 2nd *** because the 1st *** taken away ther other ***
if that made any sense it should help

Answer 7

because sometimes the child feel more safe with that other parent

Answer 8

Yea. What they said.