SEX QUESTiONS THAT NEED TO BE ANSWERED BY SMART PEOPLE?

Question

i AM ALMOST AN ADULT AND i AM GOiNG TO HAVE SEX WiTH MY BF FOR THE FiRST TiME AND YES i AM A ViRGiN. i HAVE SOME QUESTiONS THAT i WOULD LiKE ANSWERED BEFORE THOUGH. PLEASE HELP

* WE ARE GOiNG TO USE A LATEX CONDOM WiTH LUBRiCATiON AND SPERMiCiDE. WiLL THE LUBE HELP GET iT iN SiNCE iM A ViRGiN? AND WiLL THE SPERMiCiDE KiLL MOST SPERM?

* HOW COULD i TELL MY BF TO PULL BEFORE HE EJACULATES EVEN THO WE ARE USiN CONDOMS?
CAUSE i THiNK iT SAFER THAT WAY CAUSE i DONT WANT TO GET PREGNANT OR ANYTHiN.

* HOW DOES A GiRLS FiRST TiME FEEL? AND WHAT HAPPENS?

* WHAT iS A GiRLS OVULATiON CYCLE? LiKE WHEN SHE iS MORE LiKELY TO GET PREGNANT AND NOT PREGNANT?

* WHAT ARE SOME GOOD POSiTiONS THAT FEEL GOOD iF YOU ARE A ViRGiN?


iF YALL COULD HELP WiTH THESE QUESTiONS THAT WOULD BE HELPFUL. THANKS

Answer 1

Tell you what, Grasshopper: when you can locate the CAPS LOCK key, then you will be ready to do the deeds of a grownup.

Until then, keep it in your pants.

Answer 2

* WE ARE GOiNG TO USE A LATEX CONDOM WiTH LUBRiCATiON AND SPERMiCiDE. WiLL THE LUBE HELP GET iT iN SiNCE iM A ViRGiN? AND WiLL THE SPERMiCiDE KiLL MOST SPERM?

Yes/maybe

* HOW COULD i TELL MY BF TO PULL BEFORE HE EJACULATES EVEN THO WE ARE USiN CONDOMS?
CAUSE i THiNK iT SAFER THAT WAY CAUSE i DONT WANT TO GET PREGNANT OR ANYTHiN.

Say to your boyfriend, "Pull out before you ejaculate because I think it is safer that way."

* HOW DOES A GiRLS FiRST TiME FEEL? AND WHAT HAPPENS?

If it's good it feels good, if it's bad, it hurts.

* WHAT iS A GiRLS OVULATiON CYCLE? LiKE WHEN SHE iS MORE LiKELY TO GET PREGNANT AND NOT PREGNANT?

It's the period of time between your periods when you are fertile. Basically, half way in between your periods, you are fertile.

* WHAT ARE SOME GOOD POSiTiONS THAT FEEL GOOD iF YOU ARE A ViRGiN?

I would say that different positions are more for variety or to accomodate body types, rather than dealing with virginity.

iF YALL COULD HELP WiTH THESE QUESTiONS THAT WOULD BE HELPFUL. THANKS

Anytime.

Answer 3

Lubrication: Yes, it'll help. However, hopefully you're so excited your body will produce it's own lubricant. Just make him go really slow. Each time he goes in a quarter inch or so, have him pull out some... before going in a little bit further. It may take several minutes to fully penitrate.

Timing a pull out is difficult. You shouldn't worry about this. If you are worried about it, then don't have the intercourse.

You could experience all sorts of feelings. It might be fun. It might feel like a wonderful release. It could feel extremely guilty for having such a release. You may be embarrased. You may run for the showers and never talk to him again. It's hard to say how you'll first feel.

You're least likely to get pregnant within the first week after your period.

Start with Missionary. Move to other positions after you have a bit of experience.

Answer 4

almost an adult is not enough. You need to make sure you are emotionally ready because sex is a HUGE responsibility! It should be shared by two people who are in love. I understand you're interest in it since everyone is doing it these days. You need to make sure that this guy you are with is not going to leave you if you two have sex.

Telling your boyfriend to pull out might not work because he might just do it anyway, he's a guy and more than likely he'll want to finish. But if he's mature enough to respect your wishes then just talk to him.

A girls first time can feel odd because you might be thinking to yourself am I doing this right or you might just be overwhelmed of the fact that you are actually doing it. For some it can hurt but they say that if you have used tampons then more than likely your hymen is already broken and therefor it may not hurt.

As for positions, you just have to try for yourself to find one that works for you. Everyone is different.

But seriously think realy long and hard about it before you decide to do it. I was 17 when I lost mine and let me tell you, it wasn't as amazing as it was cracked up to be. It got better but I only had sex at that age because I knew I was going to be with this guy for a long time and maybe even forever and now I am engaged and getting married in a year or two.

Sex is a very big responsibility and you have to be ready physically and emotionally because even though you are using protection there is still a slight chance of getting pregnant and you have to be willing to deal with that if it happens. Like I said I believe sex should be shared between two mature individuals who love each other and will take on the responsibilities together.

Oh and be careful with the spermacide condoms because some women can have an allergic reaction to it which could be an annoyance.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Wow! You've really taken your time to think things thru before making your choices. That is quite commendable AND smart! You should be very proud of yourself b/c subjects such as these, are not only sensitive, but require a great deal of responsibility!

Yes, lubrication will definitely help and the spermicide should kill 99.9 % sperm - check your labels!!! Even tho embarrassing, you might want to ask a Pharmacist for advice!

There is NO sensitive way to ask your b/f to pull out before ejaculating. However, him pulling out is not going to make a difference. Once he is in your vaginal canal, there is already risk of pregnancy.

For all gals, it feels different. Some say it hurts, others say there's nothing to it. I remember my first time, after all these years and I don't recall it hurting. I remember it feeling tight tho. I think if your b/f goes slow and repsonds to your aprehensiveness, you will be fine.

Again, every gal is different on the ovulation cycle. Pregnancy can occur at ANY time.

Personally, I felt that being a virgin, I liked being on the bottom, missionary style. His penis seems to go in a little smoother for the first time. After that and once you feel comfortable, then you can practice different positions!

I hope I've answered your questions and that you can use my advice. Good luck and always remember to respect each other in AND OUT of bed. Choose your decisions about sex TOGETHER!

Answer 6

1) spermicide does kill most of the the sperm. that's what i'm told i believe it and i'm not pregnant so yeah.

2)i don't get it

3)a. it's different for everybody it could hurt, it could be the best thing ever it, could even be the worst just hope that you have the right person with you. b. he puts his dick in your va-jay-jay and pumps his body in to you or his dick, and some where in there you have an orgasm

4) i would say at the end off your ovulation cycle i would say cuz that's when the ovum is dead and the new egg is about to go in again but either way use the condom, and i would say in the middle of your cycle is when your likely to be pregnant.

5) what ever makes you feel good girl but since it's your first time make it so your facing him face to face and as you get in to it you can change it some when you get comfortable.
that's all i have to say

Answer 7

I recommend that if you are afraid of getting pregnant and your leaving it up to your boyfriend to (1) buy the right size condom, they can break because if this, (2) only using condoms, they break (3) leaving it up to him to pull out, that you should go to the health department for free birth control just to be safe, you can even go as a minor without parents knowing. Every girls first time is different some say it hurts some like it, it hard to say. You are also more likely to get pregnant 14 days after your period but this is not fool proof like I said before get on the pill. PS- As a girl you can break your hymen by many other activities such as playing sports it isn't always necessarily a bloody thing

Answer 8

Lubrication should definitely help with easier penetration, and yes, the spermicide will kill most if not all of the sperm, but of course you can't rely fully on it.

It's good that you are using a condom. You can actually get condoms that have spermicide applied to them as well. He doesn't need to pull out though. He just needs to wear the condom the whole time you're having sex - I used to have a boyfriend that wouldn't put it on until he was just about ready to ejaculate, and then you can still get pregnant from the pre-ejaculation during sex.

Pulling out even though you are using a condom is over-reacting. The only concern would be if the condom was too big for him and slipped off during sex or if it was too small or pulled on too far (you need to leave some space in the end for the ejaculation to collect) in which case it could break - I've had that happen.

It's impossible to say what your first time will be like. For me, it hurt sooo bad. If my hands could have gotten near his eyeballs he would be missing them right now. But he was a virgin too and didn't know exactly what to do. I talked to a girl though, who said her first time didn't hurt at all. To the best of my knowledge though, most girls do experience some pain, or at least discomfort. You may also bleed - this is normal and nothing to be embarrassed about! I didn't my first time, surprisingly, even though it hurt like hell, but most girls do.

As for the ovulation cycle, this website should tell you everything you need to know about it:
http://www.parenttime.com/pregnancyarticles/ovulationcalendar.html

I would just stick to simple missionary position the first time, if I were you. If you go on top or doggie style, it gives you more control, but for your first time that may not be such a good idea, because you might be too hesitant to let him penetrate you and that could make it hurt more. Missionary style gives him basically all the control, so you have to know that you have a guy who respects the fact that it's your first time and takes it easy on you. He should start the penetration slowly until he reaches the barrier of your hymen. Then maybe pull back a little and quickly push in all the way. It will most likely hurt but it's best to get it over and done with quickly, rather than lengthen the amount of time you are in pain by breaking the hymen slowly. Once he is in, he should wait (but not pull out) until your body has adjusted and you are not in pain anymore. You probably won't get comfortable in this time, but as long as you are not in pain anymore, he should slowly start moving again, and it will start to feel good for you. It will likely also decrease the pain if he takes the time to get you aroused through sufficient foreplay. And then YOU tell HIM when you are ready to go farther.

You should tell him all these things too. It will be easier for both of you if you are on the same page. If you're not comfortable saying these things to him, you should at least have him read this - although honestly, if you aren't comfortable enough with him to discuss these things, you shouldn't be having sex with him in the first place. If you still think you are ready to take this step, then good luck!

PS - if you're both virgins, you probably don't need to worry about STDs. But if he isn't a virgin also, you should really be most concerned about that! Despite what many people think (and I used to be one of them, so I can't fault them), condoms will NOT protect you from all STDs. I found that out the hard way when I got symptoms of the HPV virus. It is transfered through skin contact of the genital area and can cause either genital warts or even cervical cancer in women or prostate cancer in men. Genital warts can be treated, although some are too small to see with the naked eye, but you can go months, even years, after contracting the HPV virus that causes them without having any symptoms, and unless you have symptoms, there is no way to check if you're carrying the virus. Although the warts that are caused by the virus can be treated, the virus itself cannot be treated, and the warts can reoccur at any time - THERE IS NO CURE. The HPV strand (there are about 100 different types) that causes cancer can be detected through a pap smear, because it will show irregular tissue that could turn into full-blown cancer if not treated. Make sure you go for your annual physical and get that done once you are sexually active, and limit the number of partners you have to as few as possible. You may think "it can't happen to me", but guess what? Two years ago, I thought the same thing. I regret the number of sexual partners I've had every day, because I don't even know who I got it from. Don't make the same mistake!

Answer 9

I'm not trying to put a downer on things but you need to know this stuff inside out before doing it, and at least discuss it with your boyfriend - it's good that you're using a condom which prevents diseases and pregnacy if used properly. I don't know for certain but I think if you messed about (him pulling out first) even though he's wearing a condom, it could tear in the excitement. You still sound too worried about it to enjoy it and tension makes it harder for things to progress - you need to relax and be safe.
Any positions are good, but I think missionary first time - it's more intimate. First time may hurt, but hopefully not too much if you're ready. Good luck!

Answer 10

well...I just lost my virginity a few eeks ago...and I'm a guy...but I know that if you're a girl...there's a bloddy thin membrane called the hymen that strecthes across the vaginal opening and breaks when the penis enters the vagina...it's usually the mark that distinguishes wheter or not a girl is a virgin or not anymore (if it's unbroken, they're still a virgin, and if it's broke, they lost it) I know it's a little painful for a girl to have intercourse for the first time, b/c the hymen breaking is painful for a few seconds. From a guy's point of view...feeling the hymen break feels slimy and gross...it feels like the penis is popping a cherry...gross I know...don't mean to scare you lol...but it'd the facts of life. Also, your vagina may be sore for a few hours after intercourse, only b/c the penetration from intercourse can sometimes irritate it.

Answer 11

Definetly use lub for the first time you'll regret it if you don't. If you use a condom and spericdes you should be fine and your bf will be able to tell when he is about to *** and pull out. And for your first time you're best off with the missionary position. And you're exactly right about ovulation. And for you're first time its a sensation that takes a few times before you truly enjoy it. You sound mature and ready to go

=D good luck!