how long did your kids cry themselves to sleep for the first time.?

Question

Trying to get my daughter to sleep for the first time by herself. does any one remember how long their kids cried before they slept for the first time on their own.

robyn I am in the room with her. Also don't be so prechy. I am sure their are things you do with your children that I don't agree with, but I would never make you feel bad about it!

Answer 1

Okay, so here's my 2 cents worth...my daughter 27 months, I vowed I would NEVER allow her to cry herself to sleep, now we are still sitting with her EVERY night, because that's what she knows. She slept with us till she was a year, and I will put her to sleep until she moves out if I have to. My son who just turned a year, was always put to bed already sleeping until at 10 months HE decided he prefered to have bedtime bottle and then be put into his bed awake. He cried for 10 minutes the first time and now he just expects that we are going to put him in bed, give him a kiss, tuck him in and walk away. He is fine, he doesn't have brain damage, he loves us just the same!! They are all different, and from our experience, some babies just like their space and others still need reassurance that we are there. Good luck, it's a tough decision, but you have to do what's best for your family!!

Answer 2

If it's the first time I wouldn't let her cry long. Go in after a few minutes and rub her back or her head and let her know you're still there. Then you could go in again, but maybe wait a minute or two longer than the first time. I think it's very traumatic to let them cry for a half an hour like some people recommend, especially if she has never had to put herself to sleep.

Answer 3

I dont think of there's a undeniable age in this yet indexed right here are some techniques that would help. It appears like according to hazard she could bypass down for a snooze a sprint faster then you definitely are putting her down. try making a pastime out of nap time consisting of telling toddler nite nite, tucking in her animals one after the different and saying nite nite to all and sundry. she will understand she isn't the only one going to sleep. try getting her arranged half-hour until now certainly nap time yet sitting together with her and having some quiet time until now approching the concern of slumbering. whilst she wakes up crying , bypass to the room and %. up her widespread animal/toddler or despite and initiate chatting with the toy approximately "Oh gosh, you have ALL merely awoke!" this could permit her know she isn't on my own interior the room and he or she would initiate waking up and start to play a sprint rather of crying. good success to you in this...

Answer 4

She cried for 10 minutes the first time, and then it was 5 minutes, and then it was 2 minutes, and then no more crying. I read that anything longer than 10-15 minutes is not recommended because their blood pressure rises when they cry for that long and it can cause health problems.

Answer 5

I dont believe in ferberization, i am an "attachment" parent myself...look into it if the crying makes you uncomfortable. otherwise look into the fact that infants cry to alleviate a certain kind of energy they have and must express to sleep well. either will comfort you and help you find a way through this rough patch. mostly if you get them used to *waking* up alone first, then lie with them till they sleep, then put them down alone, it doesnt go as fast but may go more smoothly.
BTW my daughter is 2 and a half and has only been sleeping alone for 6 months through my intention, and her bed is in the same room as mine, the other times she "passed out" for a nap on her own.
However I am a single (and working) mother. Attachment parenting is flexible and you can only do what you can do. check out the wikipedia page for more.

Answer 6

About 30 minutes.

Answer 7

My son cried for about 45 minutes. (I've heard this is on the short end compared to some others...he's a good sleeper).

Answer 8

I only let mine cry for about 45 min. It still worked. I have heard you can let them cry for up to 2 hours but that seemed too long to me. My son only cried for 2 nights (took a little longer with my daughter) and he rolled over and went to sleep on the 3rd night and started sleeping 12 hours straight. He was a much happier baby after getting lots of good sleep.

Answer 9

never-l stay till she settles-read a story-then just sit there till she nods-she will get used to story then sleep-even if she doesn't understand it-

Answer 10

Just so you know...Dr. Sears cites research that indicates when a baby is left to cry it out, they suffer so much trauma in doing so that it CAUSES BRAIN DAMAGE!!!!! I believe the study was done on children under a certain age, but I do not recall what age.

My daughter never once cried herself to sleep. When we started working on getting her to fall asleep on her own she was 22 months. She fussed and hollered for us, but we hollered back to reassure her we were still here. She played in her bed and fell asleep on her own. It was that easy.

So...if your child has yet to make that huge cognitive leap that happens (somewhere b/w 15-30 months of age)-it's best to suck it up, deal w/ them needing you to get to sleep, and wait to let them learn to fall asleep on their own until their older. It's not worth brain damage folks!

PS: Yeah, not trying to be preachy! Just trying to inform those reading this (not just you) that CIO is NOT a good option.