For those of you who have lost a loved one....?

Question

1.(a)did u believe they were gone or (b)were u in a state of disbelief at first?

2.did u cry (a)right away or (b)when u saw a place that reminded u of the person?

3.how long did it take for things 2 b back 2 normal?

4.was the person a kid, teen, adult?

5.was the death unexpected?

6. were u a child, teen or adult when it happened

my answers:

1. i was told by some REALLY rude older kids on the bus in the rudest way, so i thought is was some idiotic, mean prank. then when my friend told my once he got on the bus. i felt dizzy and could hardly breathe, but part of me still didn't believe it.

2.i cried as soon as i got in the school and realized he was really gone

3. it has been 3 years and, even tho i have moved on out side, i still hear the words of the older kids and cry when i am all alone

4. he was a kid in my 4th grade class

5. unexpected

6. kid

Answer 1

1. b
2. b
3. I never got over it, and never will...(guilty feelings)
4. both of my parent in the same year/adult
5. yes ( both had cancer and died within 1 year)

Answer 2

1. I was definately in a state of disbelief. I was informed over the telephone and I can still remember exactly where I was standing when I was told. I collapsed and was speechless.

2. I cried within half an hour, but it didn't sink in right away. I had trouble stopping crying once I started. For weeks.

3. It's been a few years now, but I still think about him everyday. It took at least 2 or 3 years to sink it completely. Dates and places and people associated with that person still affect me though.

4. 30 year old male best friend died of a fatal heart attack.

5. Absolutely!!!


I attended his funeral on my birthday, alone. I think this has a little to do with why it affected me so badly too. My friends birthday was only a fortnight after his death.

Answer 3

Well, when you lose a love one you really do not want to believe this has happen, first you are in denial. Your head is spinning, you feel like you are going crazy. You cry and cry. I lost my mother, it took me months to get back to normal and the reason for this we were very close. I was about thirty years of age. Her death was unexpected at first, then when she was admitted to the hospital, the doctor told me that she would not make it. I did not want to believe that, I knew she would be coming home, but it did not happen. Three weeks she lived, the doctor called my house, told me she passed away. I ran down the steps and outside I went, I fell to the ground and cryed. You know I hoped into my car with the door open driving to my sister's to tell her the bad news.

Answer 4

My son was 13 years old when my wife took him along to renew her driving license. The clerk asked her if she wanted to become an organ donor. My son asked what that meant and they explained it to him. He stated the that is something he would definitely do should he reach an untimely demise.
Less than a year later, he was struck by a speeding van and died 12 hours later. The question was asked of us about donating his organs. We recalled his statement and honored his request. Patrick's gift of life became the answer to the prayers of four families that dreadful day in 2005.

I was blessed to have shared some of my short time on Earth with him.

I recently wrote a song about his gift and I will share it with you. http://www.mediamax.com/imaprospecter/ho..

In answer to your questions,
1) I am just now nearly 2 years later accepting his death

2) I pass the intersection many times a say and am ALWAYS reminded of that day, sometimes I still cry.

3) Normalcy has become relative. Back to normal, no. He was my youngest child and the nest is now empty.

4) Just coming into his best days. He was smart, well liked, and I had just convince him that he could change the world.

5) Definitely not. There are a million ways to die and only one way to not die..stay alive.

Answer 5

1. Yes, I believed he (my soul mate of 12 years) was gone because I was the one who found him.

2. I didn't cry immediately -I had to call 911 for help, and deal with the police, fire, and coroner's investigator for the next 3 hours. It was shocking, so much so, that I didn't cry for weeks after that. It's happening more now, he was my true soul mate and the best hugger in the universe. But I'll be fine. In fact, I'm fine now. I'm old enough to understand you must move on to remain healthy.

3. Back to normal has not happened yet -17 months later. When he died, the money he gave my mom for rent (she owned a duplex, we rented one side, she lived on the other) was gone. That blew my mom's budget, we had to move 2,000 miles away so we could find real estate we could now afford. So now we are almost settled in, but the feeling of being normal has not yet set in.

4. Adult, aged 50 years.

5. He was very ill with Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease, a lung disease, but he died of alcohol poisoning because he drank more than he could handle that day, accidentally.

Answer 6

My mom died 2 years ago. I was 11 1/2. I cried right away and didn't believe she was gone. I live with my wonderful grandparents now. She had a brain tumor so it was not unexpected, even though the dumb nurse said she had around 20 years to live.

Also, writing with chat-speak doesn't get you anywhere in life. It is a rude and annoying way in some cases.

Answer 7

Thank you for your question...my dad died 3 months ago today. He had been very sick for several years and while I miss him dearly, I know that I mourn for myself. For the first time in 10 years he's been able to take a deep breath without pain.
It's difficult to come to grips with the fact that he is gone. I cried more, probably after the funeral when everyone went home and I had time to actually think about it. Losing a person you care deeply for, you never "get back to normal" even though death is a very normal part of life. You learn to live with the loss with each day that passes...I know that I will always miss my dad but I also know that because of my faith in Christ, I will see him again! God bless you, darlin'...you're in my prayers.

Answer 8

Yes, I lost to death a Mom, Dad, Sister and my Only Brother. A Grand Daughter and My Husband. I didn't think I would make it thru but I did. You will to. Some deaths, are unexpected or sudden. Of course, I cried. But, in time and time really does heal all wounds.

Have a good evening.

Answer 9

1. b
2. a
3. A year or so.
4. Adult, Grandma.
5. No, she had been sick for a really long time, but no one expected her to suddenly have a heart attack...which caused the death.

Edit: 6. I was about 4 or 5 when this happened.

Answer 10

I lost both my parents last year My dad Jan and my mom Mar..both were unexpected.I was with my mom when she passed away,holding her hand :(
The hardest thing I ever had to do in my life was sign the form for the life support to be turned off....It was NOT a good moment for me.

I knew they were gone but didnt want to accept it

I cried right away and STILL cry when things remind me of them.Actually ive cry every single day since they both died.Some say it gets easier but hasnt for me.I mean,I have better days,but still,everyday something reminds me of them and I cry.

My dad was 56 and my mom 54 :'(

Well now Im bawling...I knew not to open this one :'(

Answer 11

She was my Grandma and I knew she was gone. Her health was slowly getting worst so I knew it would not be much longer but it didn't make it any easier to lose her. I don't think I will ever be the same. I think of her almost daily and still cry often. She has been gone over a year now. Hope that answers your question.