Is this considered healthy or normal?

Question

I posted this in the marriage and divorce section but I think it wasn't the right place....

I was with a man and when we were in bed he'd say 'disturbing' things to me....like, he fantasizes about doing his sister...then he'd ask if I wanted to sleep with my brother? Or if I'd want to see my siblings naked? Does this stuff actually turn men on? (or women?) When I talk to him when he's 'normal' again and ask him those questions he just laughs it off. what does all this mean? why would he talk about those things?

of course I've talked to him. He seems normal. I wouldn't do a weirdo.

Answer 1

Walk away - why would he talk about those things - silly man - leave him alone to figure it out for himself - sounds as if he needs a good talking to by some one who has more life experience - does this sort of behavior - turn other guys on - not a good question to ask really - under normal decent circumstances - categorically - No - quite frankly - see what this fella has done already - he is asking you to think the same silly way - and that is what some men do - manipulate vulnerable - sensitive - beautiful young women like you - seriously walk away while you still have a sense of humour - in that you don't unbalance your self-esteem- be kind to yourself be strong here - you know it makes for good sense - there are people out there who intimidate other people for sport basically and that is not funny - that is shameful - you deserve better you know that to be right - the best advise I can you is be authentic - develop a strong self-support capability - build upon those attributes you like about yourself - build-up your self confidence - laugh and amuse your self - take a look in the bathroom mirror in the morning - say nice encouraging things about the way you look - say to yourself - girl you have amazing eyes and feel great and on top the world - amazing really in truth - something along those guidelines - be a happy bunny you deserve better - cheer-up - have a lovely life.

Answer 2

No it's not healthy or normal to tell a woman you're sleeping with that you fantasize about "doing" your sister, and asking you if you'd want to sleep with your brother. This is someone with some deep-seeded psychological issues. Who care why he would talk about such things? Is this someone you want to have a relationship with?

Answer 3

I would not consider that normal. Either he has an unnatural fantasy or more likely incest has happened with him. People that have unnatural fantasies many times have had that happen to them as children. He laughs it off because he doesn't want you to know that those are real fantasies of his. I wouldn't continue a relationship with him until you know for sure and if you are in love and plan to marry the guy, you had better be sure he won't realize that fantasy with your children.

Answer 4

Wow! That is some sick scary sh!t. You really need to be careful. Honestly, I can't believe you are even confused about whether it's normal or not. If you have to ask, you are obviously uncomfortable. So it's not normal. I've done my share of role playing, games, blah, blah. Never have I encountered such disturbing scary crazyiness. Seriously. Something is wrong with him. You should distance yourself immediately with no forwarding address.

Answer 5

I think you need to get away from him. When men or women talk about such things something has happened to them when they were very young.
Do you ever wonder if he has 'done' his sister & that is why he talks about it? I know there are men & women out there that the only way for them to 'get off' is to talk about sick perverted things so dont' think it is you but you need to make a decision whether to try to help him or to get out of the relationship

Answer 6

If you ever had children with this person, would you trust him alone with them? Not a good candidate is he? Thank God you found out now that he isn't healthy. It's not your problem, so don't feel obligated to help him. Your problem is the safety of your unborn children, and your own sexuality. It could be just a fetish. But, its very dark. Don't play cards with the devil.

Answer 7

you certainly get sufficient workout! you're able to not comprehend it yet swimming is a huge workout ordinary! And as for the eating, its notably good. in this actual day you didnt have any vegetables..and attempt to not devour ice cream primary, in simple terms as a handle on some days. you're healthful! i think of you're able to learn some weight although

Answer 8

I do not think it's normal for a healthy woman to hang around a man like this.

Yes, your own behavior is abnormal.

You can do much better - and you deserve it.

As for changing him - that's something you cannot do. So don't stick around to try - no matter how good the sex is.

Answer 9

This is definitely not healthy. If he could fantasize about his sister, what would he do to his own children?

Answer 10

eeeeh! might be normal for him but not for me, others above and you cuz thats why we r posting....

maybe he wants to take the conversation to a point when u ll be made to know about something... maybe he has done something in the past or he keeps doin it..... or i m sorry but do u have a sister he knows face to face???

for most of men this stuff doesnt turn them on cuz they know its wrong and the limitless of us can go to extremes, like the real extremes...!

i dont understand when women dont like something about the men they'r with why do they still stick with them, when it happens to me i m in no mood and i want to shift to the other end of the world from them...... why are you bearing one part of him just cuz u like other parts...tell him!

when he starts with that mode tell him if he wants to tell you something he has 'experienced' in the past or something he really wants in the 'future', and after all you need to know tell him that you arnt interested in that fantasy and you really hate to even think about it.... and if this is something of you he cant live with then one person has to bear it.... [mayb it ll be hard for you to say, "if u cant stop then forget it.... i m the other way"] but theres something really into his mind!
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a friend of mine [who was interested in boys too, i never knew] used to talk about it and i used to say, "man! why the hell u always slip to those things, enough of science but dont u have anything else to talk about..." [that too in the days when he had the best to talk about, a new girl friend.....] one day he started again and i used to listen cuz i wanted some more of the 'information'; he finally told me and then i found him hardly talking about it cuz HE HAD A BURDEN ON HIM, A BURDEN OF KEEPING A SECRET. PEOPLE NEED TO TELLOUT THEIR BURDENS OTHERWISE ITS A MISSION FOR THEM....

now that i know and he wanted me to we hardly talk about it and he's still a good friend of mine! [most of the times ;)]

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talking should help but if he still slips and still smiles he 's definately into something insane.... lemme give one more example- dont you feel like not keeping it a secret when u sit on a ride u ve never had before and u really like it; or about the most amazing experience of yours.... if you dont, i do and i think i m like the most of us; same thing is hapenning!

tell him u hate it! and u cant think about it! tell him it makes you hate him for that time [if u dont wanna say always!]

goodluck!