I don't know if I'm too sensitive or what, or if I've developed a loner type personality over the past couple of years, but people don't seen to really care if I exist or not these days. And it's kind of funny because I was pretty popular back in high school, and now I have no friends in sight! (I'm in my early 20's now) Not sure if it's because the crap I've been through with guys over the past few years that has broken me down or changed me, ruined my self esteem, or what, but it truly feels like no understands me, nor really cares to, and it makes me feel like an outcast! What happened to me? Any ideas? I appreciate any input. Thanks.
2007-06-16 14:36:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Bless your heart sweety! Do not believe what you are feeling right now. No do not even trust those feelings. You are so worth the life given to you. Do not judge yourself by all the stuff from your past. Today start a brand new time for you, learn to relax, learn to enjoy, learn to see the good things, friend you still breath the air in your lungs, start by getting a bible and just read and read and read, find a church, go do volunteer work, you can change the attitude about yourself within the next month if you try. Get off the pity party and start fresh, show yourself and this hardcore world that you are worthy and talk to the Lord, let Him guide you to a new life....be blessed!
2007-06-16 14:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by deeprnll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could have a certain type of depression, but you know, certain things have made me feel that way now a days too. Don't let those bad boyfriends ruin your life. If you don't have any friends to talk to, try making some. Talk to co workers more often. Join a gym. Learn to water ski or snow ski. Do something fun and productive that will improve your life. You may want to talk to your doctor if your depression worsens. But over all, I think in your case, just some improvements in life would help. And don't think your existence hasn't helped anyone. You have helped someone, somewhere, believe it or not. And if you need to re assured, donate to a hostpital, charity, volenteer somewhere. Just give someone a friendly smile. You can make someones day better, if not their entire life.
2007-06-16 21:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kiearah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having friends in high school is different than having friends when your an adult out of high school! Unless you make a effort to stay in touch with the good friends, they slowly disappear! You or your high school friends must not be making the effort. Also people go their own way, and have busy lives. They get married, have kids, have their jobs, or college. Friends don't magically appear, you have to go look for them! So , find places to go, where you can meet people, or get in touch with some old friends from school. They might be feeling the same way you do!
2007-06-16 21:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by Sunday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we get so busy taking care of others, in our relationships etc., that we lose ourselves along the way.
I know exactly what you are talking about.
Very recently I've started putting myself first. I've been calling old friends I haven't talked to in a long time and I've been making new friends too.
Think back on what it was that used to make you really happy and then re-visit the past. Start doing some of those things again. Good luck to you.
2007-06-16 21:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by seashell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have an innate desire to feel needed. Once a person feels as though they are not needed, whether it be socially, financially, or whatever; it makes them question their own significance. And what a terrible feeling that is. A quick (but possibly temporary) remedy for you feeling of displacement would be to make your self indispensable (as long as you aren't too invasive). Don't beat yourself up. Your roll, as a person is changing. Know that you are in the midst of a catharsis, and that in the end, you will be something different, but just as beautiful. Know that your mind, is re-defining itself, as a natural transition from childhood, to adulthood. Have faith in yourself. And be patient, and gentle with yourself. You are grieving.
2007-06-16 21:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get yourself back together and regain your confidence - by yourself, not by depending on how you look in someone else's eye. In other words, have friends, but don't date until you feel strong enough to stay yourself without losing your way. You should establish yourself first, get a career and be financially independent. Being an independent confident woman will be invaluable to you. You will not have the stress of trying to find yourself and hopefully your future partner will be establish and you won't have those stresses in your relationship. Go in peace and good luck!
2007-06-16 21:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join my group of friends on my 360.
But The Step. Walmart and Target sells it.
Put it by your bed. Step up and down 5-15 minutes before you go to bed, 5-15 minutes after you wake up.
This will push your metabolism up so you will feel more like talking to people.
Then join a group like a gym or a speakers club. You will have more friends than you can handle.
Hope this helps. If you are on Yahoo Answers, you are someone to all of us.
2007-06-16 21:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you have spent most of your formative years being something for everyone else..hence your lament that you aren't anything to anyone. Sweetheart, when you get to where you need to be emotionally, you will find that the only things truly important are what you are for YOU , and what you are for GOD. No one else means a hill of beans, not really. It's nice to have respect, and love and acceptance from your peers, but if you don't have it, you need to be enough inside yourself that it doesn't matter, because you know what YOU and you know what GOD think about you.
Try finding the spiritual side of yourself. If you believe in God, learn more about Him and His plan for mankind in general and you in particular. You might just find that in the largeness of faith, you will find the person inside yourself that you need to please. Agape..
2007-06-16 22:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by themom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is only what you make it.
If you really feel like this is a serious problem, you may want to see the doctor about 'social anxiety disorder'. If you don't feel like you are suffering that badly, then girl, get out there and make your own destiny! You can't always get what you want... but sometimes.. if you try.. you get what you need! :)
2007-06-16 21:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your self-worth cannot be dependent upon others.
I suggest you get out there, find some stuff you like to do, join some classes, and broaden your circle of acquaintences--eventually, you will find some friends! And you'll be enriching your mind, too.
Work on yourself; male/female relationships will happen. Me, I'm working on my deen (faith in Islam), studying and hanging out with my Muslim friends. It helps!
Also, never underestimate the benefit of sharing your life with a pet, especially one from a shelter!!!
2007-06-16 21:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by aminah 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋