First Fathers Day Without My Dad?

Question

He very recently passed away and its gonna be difficult tomorrow (today)
What do you suggest i do to stop me crying all day ?

Thankyou all for your kind words, i havent got off to a very good start cos i started cryin with all your lovely answers!

I had already bought him a card and i gave it to him at his funeral, me and my sister are planting a rose tree for him in our local church grounds tomorrow with a memorial plaque but my kids want to come so i wanted to stay strong!!
His birthday is the end of the month also so another hard day ahead, but each and everyone of you have helped,
thanks and love to you all x x x x

Answer 1

Plant that Rose tree with pride

my wife and i have lost my Gran,Grandfather and Mother in law this year

we know how you feel

Chin up and cry as much as you want to

Your Dad will be watching over you

Best Regards Dick(Richard) and Wife Chrissy in Dortmund Germany

Answer 2

Hi there, On Fathers Day in 2002 I was trying to get in touch with my Dad. I had called and called and no answer. I knew he was home. I finally called the police. He had died. It has been four years but today is just as painful as the first Fathers Day after he died. I miss him so badly. My mom died when I was six so I'm without parents too. I feel for you. I know it is hard. Especially if you were very close. My Dad and I had the most wonderful relationship. He was always there to talk to, never put me down or tried to tell me I couldn't do something. He was the only one who believed in me. I found a support group for grief and loss on the net. It helped some. But the feelings of loss just seem to always be there. Be good to yourself. Know that your parents would want you to have a good life and be happy. That is the best thing I've been able to tell myself.. take care...you are loved

Answer 3

Both Fathers day and Mothers day are really hard for me too!! I lost both my parents and there is no easy answer but I'll try !! You have to believe there still around you and watching so try and be happy for them!! They wouldn't want you to cry!! You can keep them alive by remembering them!! The fun times and the bad!! That's what I do!! When your alone talk to them they may not answer which in a funny way is a good thing but tell them how you feel and cry get it all out then pull yourself together and go give those kids a hug!! I can't tell you it gets any easier but I guess it does because I can now talk about them without crying !! Really you have to suck it up and get on with life that's what they would want you to do!! I didn't know them but that's what all good parents would want!! BE HAPPY !!LOL

Answer 4

I am so sorry. I don't think anything will stop you from crying.
If you had a great relationship with your Dad it will probably be a few more Father's Days for you to stop crying. Losing a loved one has got to be the hardest thing a person has togo through. If you feel the need to cry, just let it out. It is not going to do you any good to hold it in.

Answer 5

Sorry but my internet has been down so I am a little late. I know how you are feeling. This is the 5th one without my dad and it is still hard. There is nothing really you can do except remember the good times and get through it, I know they always say it gets easier, I am not going to say it gets any easier, but I think you learn to cope a little better each year. We do something each year on Father's Day in honour of my dad. This year we made a donation to the Virginia Tech fund in his honour. So although Father's Day is really over, know my thoughts are with you and your family.

Answer 6

Im sorry for your loss . I lost my dad last year and fathers day was really tough everywhere i went it was all cards and cds and worlds best dad everywhere and it was tough but i managed to get through it. Take some flowers and a card for him and just think of all the good times you shared together .If not go out for the day to take your mind of it clear your head.I know its hard right now and it may not seem like it but it will get easier just give yourself time and dont feel bad for crying let your emotions go .

Answer 7

I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad will be gone three years next month. On his birthday and fathers day I still look at cards for him. I take him flowers roses were his favorite. Crying is your heart saying how much you love and miss him. He is still with you and loves you. I could be doing the strangest things like cutting my moms grass and I can smell him with me. Just because we can't see the people we love and miss terribly doesn't mean their not around us.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry you lost your father, I lost mine, a few years ago. If you have family, go spend time with them, and talk of all the good times, and good things you remember about your dad, you will be crying (there is no way around that), but they will be tears of "good things remembered". I'll be praying for you to have a good and peaceful "Fathers Day". If you want to get in touch with me...I will be happy to "share a little time with you", God bless you, and Happy Memories !!!

Answer 9

I know how you feel this will be my 3rd year with out my dad on fathers day. Its ok to cry. I usually go to the semetary and put fresh flowers and sit on the grass and think and remember the good times we had together. I usually liek to take a photo album with me to remember. I loved my father very much and its hard moving on i know . Its hard to think that som1 you loved so much will never be by your side again. Dont cry just think that your dads looking down on you from heaven and hes always with you. Or if you dont believe in heaven then just know hes with you.

Answer 10

My dad died in 1971 and I miss him still but you should believe that it's doubtful he would want you to mope around being depressed. For a number of years I used to go and have a pint for him and felt comfort in that but I eventually realised that as long as he's in my thoughts he's still here and at least once every day I give him a place on the planet just to let him know I still love him and will never forget all he did in my life.