At work I got bullied by other staff members and a nasty boss. At home I've had trouble from neighbours over the garden and noise issues. All I am is a single mum trying to cope with two difficult teenage daughters and get on with my life. Why am I always being persecuted? I'm putting this on polls and surveys as I trust you all to give good answers...
2007-06-16 10:59:02 · 31 answers · asked by Peace 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
you gotta kick some ass. If you don't fight back you're pegged an easy target and people will **** with you.
2007-06-16 11:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by chickenhead 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
This is a pretty big question, hun.
1) Getting bullied at work is absolutely unacceptable. Firstly, what sort of behaviour is being displayed to you? Sometimes what you would classify as bullying would be 'banter' to the rest of the office. You have to figure out in clear terms exactly what you're offended and hurt by, then take it to the manager. If it's going higher than the manager, you should quit and find a better environment. At the end of the day, if you leave, that is their loss, not yours.
2) If you're having trouble with the neighbors, apply the same as number 1, but try talking to your neighbors as well about how to reach a diplomatic conclusion. If none seems possible, consider what changes you can make for yourself.
3) Having teenage daughters is difficult. I'm afraid I'm not a mother but I am sure your neighborhood/town should have a single parent community help service or something. Local libraries are a good place to start, or, indeed, the local community services website where you can find help, support and advice.
2007-06-16 11:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by C 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had to quite a job because of being bullied by a coworker I understand what you are saying but let the truth be known they know I wouldnt talk back or get nasty that s why I was an easy target as far as the neighbor had that problem too finally told her if she thought she could better than go do it explain you are to darn busy raising your kids than worried about weeds in the garden as far as noise as long as you turn it down by 11 pm who cares hang in there mom just toughen skin a little more and another piece of advice dont talk about your home life cause those bullys will just use it against you
2007-06-16 11:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by hollybell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joys of life I'm afraid, don't take things seriously...you work to support your home life, it's not the end all and be all, if you are genuinely un-happy there then move on. As for neighbours just keep your head down...you don't say who's causing the problems them or you? and teenage daughters....well I've been there and done that..it does get better, but not before it gets worse am afraid...they're a different breed of human these days! You really need to relax and just remember that it won't always be like this.... trust me.
2007-06-16 11:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easy for someone to tell you why this is happening but only you can fix it. take it a step at a time.
tell your difficult daughters it is time for them to grow up and stop causing trouble for you. If they don't like it ,tough. You have a right to a life without hassle.
At work when you feel you are being bullied ask the person to stop and make a compaint. It is time to take back control of your life.
Good Luck
2007-06-16 11:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if everybody is giving you a hard time, maybe you should evaluate your responsibility in all this. Sure, it's difficult being a single mom and working, but that's not an excuse for not keeping things in control. Maybe everyone else is wrong, but there's a good possibility they're not. Do some soul searching and see what you come up with.
2007-06-16 11:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by Skatermomof5 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are having problems at work and at home it may be you. Seriously take a good look at your attitude. You may have to talk to a trusted person in your life to see if there is something you are doing and not realizing it. If you don't have anyone you can talk to about this try a therapist or better still talk to your pastor at your church.
2007-06-16 11:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by papricka w 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you'll never get left alone at work - it just doesn't happen. when you get home, tell your daughters that you need some time to yourself and that for 1 hour they should leave you alone. they are old enough to do that. then just do what you want to unwind - read a book, take a shower, call a friend, whatever. good luck :-)
2007-06-16 11:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by Meg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest,
None of us can really give
you an accurate answer. This
could be a number of problems. We
haven't met you, we haven't met your
co-workers or your neighbours. But
what I would advise you to do, is speak
to somebody that does know you and
can give you a more helpful answer than
this one!
Take care, best of luck.....Thanks
2007-06-16 11:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becoz the persecuters know that you'll take it.
Try standing up for yourself a little bit more, then things will soon change.
Good luck ;-)
2007-06-16 11:06:17 · answer #10 · answered by *izzybum* 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You won't like my answer but I'll say it anyway. Look at your own behaviour, Why are your daughters difficult, maybe lack of parental control.
Don't blame others for your own short comings. We are not here to support you.
2007-06-16 11:06:07 · answer #11 · answered by Bob S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋