Is marriage for everybody?

Question

Is your marriage fulfilling? Is marriage for everybody? Did your spouse turn out to be the person you thought they were before you got married? What do to make it more exciting, fulfilling- Can you MAKE it fulfilling or once its one of those things that once it goes wrong you cant fix- ever?

Answer 1

NO, marriage is not for everybody. It is not for people who are self-centered, sefl-absorbed-or selfish when it comes to having to get what they want.

Also, you have no guarantee that the person you married loves you with as much dedication as you have or visa/versa.

LOVE HAS TO DO WITH HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF WITH THAT SOMEONE SPECIAL...IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT YOU.

THUS, some people like the income, sex, just having the attention, or other wrong reasons to say, "I love you!" If they do not really know what that means, they have deluded themselves and you into thinking, THIS IS IT!

That discontent you feel, it is natural after the butterflys wein, to get a little bored with a spouse. After all, you can only count how many belly hairs a person has before you discover no new ones. Those little annoyances that was present during courtship, are now MAJOR problems in a marriage.

For some reason, that strong feeling of 'self content' when you are with the right person, can weather those and other storms only if YOU ARE REALLY IN LOVE!

THIS IS THE REASON THAT A LOT OF RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGES FAIL. PEOPLE FAIL TO RECOGNISE "REAL LOVE" FROM OTHER FORMS OF AFFECTION.

THERE ARE 4 TYPES OF LOVE IN THE BIBLE. I would hightlight two:

""Eros, called ‘love’ by the present generation, is, at its worst, an unquenchable fire that consumes its owner. It seeks to find self-satisfaction in its object but the failure to possess only enflames the desire more. This side of eros cannot be satisfied and will destroy the man who gives free vent to its leading. Marriage is often based upon an expression of eros love. A man sees a woman who is, to him, an object worthy of his attention and he goes about seeking to possess her in marriage (or, outside marriage). When the ‘attraction’ wears off (or when his ‘attraction’ is centred in another - and , believe me, the day will come when that does happen), so does his desire to possess and the marriage or relationship breaks down. Eros isn’t an adequate foundation for marriage if it’s the only type of love present. All the above three types of love described should be present in a marriage, yet especially the next concept word, agape. ""
: Agape, translated ‘love’, ‘charity’, ‘dear’, ‘love-feast’ in contrast at both points [of the word eros]: It is not a love of the worthy, and it is not a love that desires to possess. On the contrary, it is a love given quite irrespective (regardless) of merit, and it is a love that seeks to give’."""

Without this Agape love, NO MARRIAGE WILL SUCCEED!

Answer 2

My marriage is very fulfilling. No, marriage is not for everyone. Yes, my spouse is the same person he has always been. Marriage is lot of work on both people. A marriage just doesnt happen, it is created by TWO people. If something goes wrong, you fix it and dont go down that path again.

Answer 3

I love my husband and my marriage.

I do not think marriage is for everyone, but it can be a good thing if you are so inclined.

My husband is exactly who I thought he was when we married and has turned out to be better than I imagined.

I think a marriage can be fixed if both people are realistic in expectations and are willing to work on it.

I also think some marriages cannot be saved because the couple involved are not right for each other. I don't mean the temporary, bad patch kind of not right... I mean the we see the world very differently, want different things in life kind of not right for each other.

If you are asking because you are considering, only you can answer the "can it be fixed" question.

Answer 4

No, it is not for every body. It can be fulfilling if you take your time and find the right person and don't just marry the first person to say yes. But that still doesn't make it right for everybody. It helps if you are a little crazy...After all, marriage is an institution and you have to be commited to it...

Answer 5

I truly believe that marriage isn't for everyone, that being said, if you got into it, you need to work like hell to keep it. The only time that I truly understand divorce is if it is abusive. People change and grow. The trick is growing together. I truely believe that you can make your marriage exciting and fulfilling. Think back to when you first were dating? What were your interests? What did you do on dates? Talk to each other! Worse case see a counselor. You hafta want to make it work. If you do, then the rest is just technicalities. Good luck

Answer 6

My marriage is very fulfilling. But no marriage is not for everyone. My spouse has actually changed since marriage... we're going on 2 years and still learning more baout each other every day.

Answer 7

From you questions, it looks like you are looking for guarantees. There are none. Marriage is work to keep the love alive, to keep the trust constant, to be the best friend and lover, to know that the other person is your other half. If you think that you can just sit in the passenger seat and not participate, then you are wrong.

Can you ever fix a marriage that you let fail or ignored. The answer is yes, but again it is work for the both of you. One person is not in it by themselves.

Answer 8

marriage isn't for everyone and if more people knew that and thought the decision through first then there wouldn't be such a high divorce rate
my aunt was with her man for almost 9 years-they owned a home together...no common law marriage in their state...well one day he woke up with a tooth ache and the only way he could afford a dentist was if they got married because then he would be covered by her insurance...so they decided to go to the court house and get married...in their blue jeans later that day...they were married for a few months before the family knew and they never had kids although they were married for 6 years...six years later they decided that they didn't have that spark of love anymore and he moved out...they are still best friends and he still comes to all our family events...they even double date! I wish all marriages that ended ended the way theirs did: still in love just not in lust; and still best friends (they been divorced for 3 years)

Answer 9

No, marriage is not for evertbody..

Some are born to marry; some manage to marry & some have marriage thrust upon them.

How many hookers from time immemorial? This justifies my assertion that marriage is not for 4everyone..

Let's Salute the hookers! They are the Sanctuary to unmarried & non-marriageable men.

Let's salute their customers who give some fun & subsistence & life to the non-marriageable ladies..

To be honest, most marriages are just accomadation of interests & non-fulfilling.

Marriage is Human-invented & not god-given or Nature sanctioned / ordained. So let's not deceive ourselves.

If we expect the impossible, we're sure to be disappointed & frustrated. That's what is happening.

But some wish to think they are happily married. Height of self-deception!

Marriage is just a busoness deal.

We remain married just because, there is not a better one in sight & reach. That's the truth.

Women have begun to say, We want husbands but not in our home!' How True!

Men wish to overcome their disappointment & frustration by fooling around.

We must learn to accept the facts of life as they are & not as we wish them to be!

Answer 10

Marriage is not for everyone, and never has been. It's for the majority of people, yes, but there have always been single people since the beginning of time.

There was a time that there was no such thing as marriage. It's a social convention.