To just friends, As I dont love her as much as she loves me. YES I know that sounds selfish and rotten of me, But why marry someone just to find out at a later date it was not the right thing to do. If more people thought before getting married then the divorce rate would not be so sky high. WHAT SHOULD I DO Thanks?
2007-06-16 10:56:13 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Very simple....she felt you were gonna downgrade the relationship so she put all her money on the one horse she wants by asking you to marry her.
You MUST tell her you do not feel the same as she does. Yes marriage is a very important institution and you do not take lightly. You`re a good guy, do the right thing and talk to her.
2007-06-16 11:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that you were thinking more along the lines of downgrading to friends. Tell her the truth before she goes blabbing to all her friends and relatives that you are getting married. Then you will sound like a bastard for dumping her. Do it right now. I think she knows things are not wonderful between both of you and that is why she wants to push the marriage button. You are right. That is why the divorce rate is so high. It doesn't work if one person love the other more. It just doesn't and tell her so.
2007-06-16 11:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There will be hurt feelers, but if you don't love her and you don't wanna marry her then the worst thing you can do is say yes and go through with it. You will hurt her worse if you go through with it. You should definately have a talk, admit to her whats going on, honestly the friends thing after a break up doesn't always work, so good luck, but you can't stay with her if you are seriously not on the same level in the love department. For the sake of both of your happienesses get out.
2007-06-16 11:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by Krissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not as rotten or selfish as you may think; better to tell her now than after a wedding. Dissolving a bf/gf arrangement is free....dissolving a marriage is costly (financially AND emotionally). Even though what I've said is true, there will still be some awkward, dark days ahead for awhile. Prepare yourself for that. Good luck to you.
2007-06-16 11:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who asks someone to marry them via text message? Geezus.. Anyway, my answer to you is a simple one.. if you don't love her.. by all means don't marry her. If you already had thoughts of downgrading the relationship to just friends.. then stick with your plan and do that. Sure, it's going to crush her, but in the long run she will be thankful that you didn't just string her along. She will heal. Best of luck =)
2007-06-16 11:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by Christine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't selfish or rotten of you to feel that way. However, it would be selfish and rotten if you don't tell her right away. Of course it will hurt, but unfortunately, not every relationship that starts is going to end in "until death do us part." It will hurt her, but lying and pretending will hurt more and bring about a worse mess to deal with.
2007-06-16 11:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Angel33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say no. It's not that hard. Tell her that you have been meaning to cut off the bond for a while now, but you just felt so bad, and that now is the right time before things get too serious. She will be heart broken, but will understand that you don't want to have marriage complications, and will honor you for telling her the truth.
2007-06-17 04:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by miranduh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't love her so why would you marry her? You're not a homosexual so why would you have sex with someone of the same sex? What's the difference? Don't marry her dude..it's simple. She'll hurt and get mad but that's better than the hurt you'll cause when you cheat on her or file for divorce in a few months, years cuz you married her even though you didn't love her.
2007-06-16 11:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by six3x 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that she sends you a text message asking you to marry her is just pathetic. If you don't want to you don't have to. It's not selfish at all actually. It would be selfish if you were really rude about it though. Just tell her you aren't as serious about her as she is about you. She won't understand but that is pretty much all you can do.
2007-06-16 10:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend texted you because she FEELS something different in the relationship and she made a desperate move.
You'd be wise to tell her the truth and be kind about it. Walk away either as friends (which I find can be near impossible to attain IF you've been lovers) or.. make a clean break.
2007-06-16 14:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋