I am 23,i have a girlfriend.When i was in highschool i had an affair with a married man.Anyway he came back after moving away a few years ago and wants to pick up were we left off,but he left me hey!
I am happy with my girlfriend,hes bugging me.The fool has booked us(he and i)a holiday in august.I so dont want to go.He really is asking for a painful death.
I ignore his calls and delete his texts(HOW DID HE GET MY MOBILE NUMBER)
Whenever i am out he comes up to me and starts talking,i just smile,say hi then say i am busy and leave.Why cant he take the hint that he should get lost already?
Maybe i should hire a hitman..(not serious,but sometimes i feel like banging my own head on a brick wall).
(I posted this in 'singles and dating' but reposting and re-edited this,as to be honest i am on the verge of crying and its not something i do.)
Add-also i denied it all to my girlfriend.Should i come clean with her,maybe she could help?
2007-06-16 10:52:56 · 12 answers · asked by dusk_to_moonbeam 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am not ashamed to have been with a guy,but i am ashamed that he was married.And a few people(like my parents)knew the couple,i am afraid of admitting what i did,it was a stupid mistake.I have grown up alot and i would never cheat on my own girlfriend or steal someone else's partner if i was single.
2007-06-16 11:12:37 · update #1
4 star-Who are you trying to impress here?Why dont you read up on all the 'sexual'terms before trying to say anything.I have and thats what i am.
2007-06-16 11:15:17 · update #2
Lingo?Sorry foghorn i am also from the UK.Well i have friends,but they dont know about my gay experiance,and my youngest friend who does know is only 16.
2007-06-16 11:34:03 · update #3
Louise H,i dont owe him anything.HE left ME years ago.i coped fine.He can do the same.I did love him and he broke my heart,so yeah,i dont have to say anything to him do i?
2007-06-17 00:28:37 · update #4
A) if you weren't dating her when you had the affair, TELL HER. It's so important you have her support now because otherwise you could end up making a silly decision and wrecking both relationships.
B) Don't go on that holiday even if he wants you to. He can't force you into a car, can he?
C) How come he's finding you on the street? And how come he's got your phone number? That's creepy, dude. I'd seriously go to the police and file a complaint. You have to tell them he's pestering you and you're concerned that he's finding out information on you.
D) All of the above plus: plain tell him to leave you alone. And if he starts begging, just tell him "no" every single time.
PS I posted a link about how to get over a relationship - maybe this guy needs to read it.
2007-06-16 11:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all change your mobile phone number and when you give it out to your friends next time, tell them not to give it out to anybody else. Make sure the number is unlisted. Don't know where you're from, but where I come from you can get a 'pay as you go' number and you don't have to register. Secondly, next time you meet your 'friend', tell him that things are getting out of hand and you are feeling uncomfortable with the situation and it has to stop. Tell him that your family and friends know what he's doing and you might consider talking with the police if he doesn't leave you alone. Nobody should have to live like this. It's a form of abuse and it shouldn't be tolerated in society today. People have enough to deal with in their lives then to have to put up with this kind of thing being added to it. Stand your ground. Don't back down. Good luck!
2007-06-16 11:12:09 · answer #2 · answered by Emerald Book Reviews 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is obviously either a stalker or a loser, or cannot reconcile with the fact that he needs to move on. If this is getting out of hand, it will be a good idea to let your girlfriend in. I am sure honesty only strengthens true love. You can also inform police of possible stalking, or threat to your privacy and personal life. If this guy cannot take hints, he should be handled in a more direct and, however cruel it may sound, acrimonious manner.
2007-06-16 11:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be hard, but why should he take a hint?
You are obviously not communicating effectively.
Tell him outright! You can put it nicely to soften the blow, but you need to spell it out for him.
If he continues after that, then yes you've every right to feel aggrieved and you should then go to the police, smack him, whatever, but you did get involved with him initially, so I think he deserves the courtesy of being told, rather than being left in limbo.
Oh and by the way, ignoring calls and texts, smiling and pretending to be busy, are all 'tricks' women play when trying to attract a man (sorry girls). So I'm not surprised this guy is confused he possibly thinks you're trying to play him.
2007-06-17 00:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by Louise H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jillybird has the right idea.
Tell this dude to get lost, pronto.
Do you not have any male friends who could present this loser with a fist. By your lingo, I surmise you are in the USA -I'm in UK, but, believe you me, I'd be quite happy to thump this loser into the afterlife.
Enjoy your girlfriend. Enjoy your life. Be yourself. Tell your girlfriend about what is going on, and then tell your Law Enforcement officers. In England, we have laws that deal with sexual harassment - surely the US has the same.
I'm right there with you, in spirit if not in body.
2007-06-16 11:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY hint??? Just tell them straight out..."try & kiss me again & you'll lose a lip". IF they try & kiss you again, bite his lip just hard enough to get his attention. When he's trying to feel you up...slap him & tell him "touch me again & I'll call the cops". Then IF he touches you again, call the cops. When they show up tell them you asked him to STOP & he wouldn't & you feared being raped. It won't take long for the word to get around that you are crazy & mean what you say the FIRST time you say it!!!
2016-05-17 11:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should come clean with your girlfriend. Tell this guy in no uncertain terms that you want nothing to do with him. If he persists get a restraining order.
2007-06-16 10:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by punch 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you definetly need to come clean to your girlfriend. Otherwise you are going to cause even more problems..
2007-06-16 11:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by nothingbutme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him firmly to get lost. he is stalking you and you are well within your rights to inform the police. Tell him this and make sure he understands you are serious.
2007-06-16 11:01:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
is he still married. if so a word with his wife might correct the problem.
2007-06-16 11:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by griffyn10941 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋