How did you move on? Survive? Would you ever get married again?
2007-06-16 10:52:19 · 11 answers · asked by cats 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex husband was an alcoholic who cheated even though I tried my best to make the marriage work. It sucks!
2007-06-16 11:15:48 · update #1
I have been divorced more than once....but one was REALLY bad.
You do survive. Obviously you also get married again, if you are me! ;-)
But after that last, really bad divorce I was convinced I wouldn't marry again and shouldn't marry again. I was dating totally for entertainment. Wasn't looking for a long term commitment. Was convinced that I would die single.
And like that corny song ..... we went and saved the best for last. I got married again 1-1/2 yrs ago at the age of 46 to an abosloutely fabulous, wonderful man.
And I know how to appreciate him and my luck at finally having the man I deserve.
So just give it time. When you are ready--he will come.
2007-06-16 10:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The marriage was so bad that I felt ecstatic when it was over. No love lost at all. Last thing I'd ever want to do on this earth is see or hear from him again. Wonder why I ended up married to the loser in the first place. Must have been Juju of some type. No problem moving on at all. That wasn't a marriage, it was a nightmare that happened while I was wide awake!
I love to be in love and get married for what I'd consider the first time.
2007-06-16 17:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a bad marriage for 6 years. I left him, kept socially busy and moved on quite easily. I remarried 2 months after my divorce was final to a man I dated and lived with for almost 3 years. He is raising the kids from my first marriage and we have one together.
We have been married for four years now and I am happy in a way I never imagined being able to feel for ANYONE while I was married to my first husband.
2007-06-16 18:00:02 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first marriage was a night mare, he was a Manic Depressant. I was with him for 20 years we had a daughter when she moved out so did I. It was hard to trust and love again but I did. My husband is a great guy, we was friends for years before we went out.So take it slow you will find the right person some day until then have FUN!!!
2007-06-16 18:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by deanorjon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never thought I would marry again after my divorce. We were married 13 yrs and had two children. I was at first devastated at the thoughts of divorce, but then I realized I deserved to be happy. I am now married again to a wonderful man. He treats me and my kids better than their dad ever did.
The way I survived was....I decided I did not need him to take care ofme. I am a very strong person and can take care of myself. That is probably why I dated my current husband over 5 yrs before I finally let him talk me into getting married.
Good luck to you.
2007-06-16 17:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a bad marriage and a divorce, give yourself a break... divorce is hard on everyone, and takes awhile to get over and heal from all the hurts...as for survive...you look as if your doing alright...just take it one day at a time and everyday just gets better. as for moving on.. just take it slow and you'll know when it's time to date another person. some people get remarried ( I did) and others don't.
Good luck and take care
2007-06-16 18:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by blue moon lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cats, I was divorced twice and I can confirm to you the will for living does come back after a bad experience and yes I would still remarry.
You survive by making yourself the main person in your life. Treat you to the best and date just for the fun of it.
2007-06-16 17:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just signed my divorce papers,, let me tell you,, ,it was hard,, and its still hard,, but each day gets better. my ex husband has already moved on and live with another girl,, we been separated for 6 months, i didn't want the divorce, he served me.. I'm still hurt, but at the same time, it was a blessing in disguise, i don't want to re marry,, because i don't ever want to go through a divorce. i had to exhale and let it go, and come to terms that this just wasn't the man for me,, any man who can just up and walk out on you for his OWN INSECURITIES isn't what my vows was about,, so he divorce me,, and now I'm accepting it and slowly moving on, i didn't start dating yet,, i want to fix me work on me, and make sure I'm not taking any emotional baggage with me to a new relationship.. i wish him the best,, and I'm working on me. I got a new hair style, i work out regularly, and I'm staying busy,,,, remember you love you first,, and god is love, and we must be happy first with us and not let any man determine our happiness,,, nor look for a man to make us happy,, good luck.
2007-06-16 18:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by mngnyc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to play the DON HENLEY, Age of Innocence CD, over and over.
Don't worry, two years is normal, and yes you get married again eventually. After a lot of mistakes choosing the wrong person for a while.
Sometiomes you think, "Well I have to date Somebody, don't I?", and you just choose some loosers again, but you wake up every time, just in time.
Then after a spell with nobody, you meet someone interesting. And man, the conversation is noticeably better. And life moves forward again.
relax.
2007-06-16 17:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by Blues Lovin' Daddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.been 15 years for me and "kids feelings', "my guilt" still occupy a good part of my day.
2007-06-16 18:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by Rexy2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋