should i date now that i know my cheating on me because i need female in my life i cant stand to be touched or spoke to by her
2007-06-16 10:37:30 · 6 answers · asked by babyface69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're feeling a strong need for support and attachment to someone. No wonder -- you're at the brunt of an insensitive, hurtful action by someone near you.
If you get involved now, it would be out of desperation, and that makes it really hard to make good choices. Usually better is to grieve the loss of the first relationship. Face the hurt, as hard as it is. Face any issues you might own. Replacement is rarely a good way to get through a divorce.
If you can find someone who's been through similar, or a friendship or even a counselor to bear your burden with you, that's indispensible. When you're back on your feet you can choose wisely without as much risk of a repeat.
May you find healing and hope.
2007-06-16 11:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by waldguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce and get single. Then you are free to date as much as you want.
If you have any thoughts of trying to save your marriage, then get help. find a counselor and DON'T get involved with another woman, it would just cause even more damage and it's not fair to mess up someone else's life.
Not fair to another woman to get involved while your life is in such turmoil and you are most likely an emotional mess.
You will have healthier relationships when you are in a better state of mind yourself.
2007-06-16 12:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by joyh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. She is very much in the wrong, but as the saying goes, two wrongs don't make a right. You need to talk to her. Be non-judgmental and calm. Tell her you know about her activities and you feel they are wrong. Ask her if she wants to work it out with you, and if she tells you no, then it is time for her to move out. Then you will be free to pursue your own life. If she does want to work things out, she must stop seeing her "friend" and go to counseling with you immediately.
I wish you the very best.
2007-06-20 07:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by leslie b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did. And I had absolutely no guilt about it. Just make sure you use condoms. Divorce will happen anyway, you may as well be happy in the mean time.But, whoever choose may not be the right one for your next relationship.
2007-06-16 11:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by anastasia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the right thing to do would be to divorce her. Then you are free to do as you like. It wouldn't be fair to any prospective partners to date while you are still legally married.
2007-06-16 10:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by DK Julie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce first and then be on your merry, dating way!
2007-06-16 10:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by IceIt71 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋