I have some debt. I have $400 a month going to credit cards and personal loans. Would a girl not date a guy who has these liabilities. I am college educated, and I pay my bills on time. However, I lost money when I had to make a job transition. Any advise ladies? I have to work 7 days a week because of the debt.
2007-06-16 10:05:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Personal Finance
I don't think she'd be attracted to your debt, but why would it matter to her? As long as the two of you can do fun, inexpensive things, and you really get along personality-wise, it won't matter.
If you're talking about getting married, engaged, or starting a new relationship, you might want to clue her in on why you aren't in a position to go on vacations, buy extravagant gifts, or go out to 3 star restaurants (lol).
But, all in all, unless you're going to be dating someone very shallow and high maintenance, it shouldn't matter. She shouldn't become a debt add-on for you.
2007-06-16 10:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Atlease your trying to get out of debt and that shows you are responsible and that is something I look for in a guy. Just remember take care of your debt first because you don't want to spend money on a new girl and get in debt because your focus is somewhere else. But honestly I don't think debt should be a big issue unless you run into a golddigger and anything without money is an issue so stay away from those kind of females if you truly want to stay out of debt.
2007-06-16 10:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably would not be too attracted. Too much debt (in contrast to income) is not good because it represents limited social abilities. I personally think this is a subconscious trait. Someone with excessive debt is restricted, and may not be able to participate in the spontaneous activities that are part of dating. For example, going to a nice restaurant in another city is more fun than fast-food from down the street. Also, most women (not all of course) instinctively are drawn to men they view as a provider, also a subconscious trait, in my opinion. And money provides. I went through what you are going through. I think the best thing is not to discuss money at all. Not at all. Never comment on how much something costs, how much money you make, or have with you. Just have a good time, and reach in to your wallet every time you need to, and never say anything about it. Good luck to you.
2007-06-16 10:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Derail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the reason for the debt and that you're making efforts to pay it off. Your reason seems to be legit and not due to irresponsibility. But at this point can you really afford to take a girl out and when would you have time since you are working 7 days a week?
2007-06-16 10:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by margarita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a lot of debt is never a good thing, and can be a turnoff. However, showing responsibility and working hard to pay off those debts are very redeeming qualities. They cancel out the debt, in my opinion.
If only they could *really* cancel the debt!
2007-06-16 10:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by californialove106 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with mommabear--attraction is a strange thing. Just because you have bills and a debt doesn't mean that a female would not be attracted to you. Just keep paying on those bills though and I would suggest keep looking. There is hope. Good luck.
2007-06-16 10:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attraction is strange--many people would be attracted to one, regardless of finances, looks, popularity, etc. However, I would hope that you are trying to clear the credit thing up--and that you can soon stop needing to work 7 days per week. It hardly sounds like you have time for a relationship.
2007-06-16 10:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 18:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls dont like guys in debt cause it shows they cant take care of themselves.
2007-06-16 10:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by peachy_pink321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋