I am starting to have sex with my gf who is a virgin and we always have to stop because she says she is in a lot of pain. I have tried lubricants, foreplay, a few different positions but she just always says she is in too much pain. Any suggestions?
2007-06-16 09:40:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
her on top.
she has the control. she can move and control howfar your in or hop off if she needs to. ha, sorry.
the key point is you have to let her have control. If she likes traditional missionary then dont go fast, thats just the fast way to hurting her. if she lets u control it then take everything really slowly. and im not talking slow for a minute then after she relaxes speed up.
for a virgin its not about how good it feels right away, u gotta get her used to the feeling of it, then later u can have all the fun u want.
good luck
2007-06-16 10:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to make sure that she is really ready and not just doing the deed because she's afraid of losing you. Your mind is a very powerful object, if she doesn't really want to participate it could be causing the pain. But just in case, she may want to see her gyno. Many things could cause pain such as a tilted uterus, an infection of some kind. If she gets the all clear from her doctor, talk with her to see if you can find out if she truly wants to go to this level with you now or she would like to wait a little longer. Good luck to you both.
2007-06-16 16:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by foodieNY 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
You have to take it easy, make sure she's really ready. Be safe, use protection, and see a doctor in case something might be wrong. Just be patient until she can "perform" on your level...
2007-06-16 16:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Maybe her hymen hasn't been broken yet for some reason, or she is too small to accommodate you. Are you sure she is fully aroused? I think she should talk it over with her gynecologist and if she doesn't have one, then she should start seeing one if she's going to be having sex.
2007-06-16 16:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by margarita 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i'd say continue w/ what you're doing, but the position should be gentle missionary until she gets used to it...she will tell you when she's ready for other positions..give it time!
2007-06-16 16:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by claria 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you buy a vibrator and let her play around when she's alone? She can control how far in to go and then when it comes to sex she may not be in as much pain.
2007-06-16 16:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by log3 5 · 3⤊ 4⤋
well the thing is that either she just cant take it anymore or she cant handle your dick. but try rubbing some oil on the ovam then go have sex with her it helps trust me i tried it before.
2007-06-16 16:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yeah, realize that she doesn't want to have sex. If she isn't wet, she isn't really into it, she's just going along because she's feeling pressured.
2007-06-16 16:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by John 4 · 17⤊ 2⤋
Suggest that she see her doctor. Also, be sure she's really ready.
2007-06-16 16:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by TeriR 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
maybe she's just not ready
2007-06-16 16:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋