my husband and i have been married 2 years he has been raising the kids and they both love each other. our marriage was everything i ever wanted, he was a great dad to my kids(They call him daddy) a good husband and we had a caring affectionate marriage. but he had a affair and moved out he promised the kids he would always be here for them and was until a few weeks ago when the other woman said she didn't trust him seeing me so he couldn't see them anymore. he can't tell them because its too hard and they cry and ask to see him all the time. she won't let him come see them because she found out that we were still being intimate when she was with him. i have since ended that but will he realize that he is hurting the kids and i see he is misable too so why does she want a married cheating, lying man and why won't he stand up for his kids?
2007-06-16 09:09:52 · 10 answers · asked by lily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The guy is a LOSER!....SUCH a loser!! Why would you even want such a sorry man as him, around your kids?? He doesn't deserve to see them...and THEY deserve a decent man! Move on, and find him for them!
2007-06-16 09:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is weak. It should not be so easy for him to walk away from his kids or his marriage. He will regret this later on & he will be back around. She is controlling b/c she doesn't want what happened to you, to happen to her. But guess what, it already has, if you 2 were still intimate & also, he will probably end up doing to her what he's done to you. You will have to be the one to explain to your kids what has happened since he won't. Don't keep the truth from them. The kids always suffer the most. And by him being this type of man, it says a lot about his character & his new woman is really dumb not to see this. He won't stand up for his kids b/c he is weak & is more in to pleasing self. Even though they may not be his kids when he married you ,he married them. I'm sorry for your pain & your kids pain. You all don't deserve this. I wish you the best.
2007-06-16 16:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but hopefully he'll come to his senses and come home....and I hope it's before it's too late. She's got some kind of hold on him...(forgive the observation, but maybe it's a physical dynamic that's taken him into territory he's never been in before...it happens), but she also seems controlling, and if he's any kind of man, that will wear thin over time. Missing the kids has more of an impact on him I suspect than he's letting show at this point. It's practiced because he knows he has to keep her off his back about that particular issue. But it's there just the same. Right now he just wants to keep her reasonably happy by caving in to her unreasonable requests, but in time he'll grow to resent a woman who would make him choose between her and his family. Her appeal will eventually fade and he'll see her as manipulative. The best sex in the world doesn't stand up against family... Sooner or later you'll be in the position of having to decide whether or not you want to take him back. Don't; he's weak. Good luck to you.
2007-06-16 16:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your Husband is weak minded. You can't fully blame this on her because he is after all a grown man fully capable of making his own decisions. When it comes to his children NOBODY should be able to tell him to stop seeing them whether you are a factor in it or not. The other woman is only being insecure. She fears that he will sleep with you again. You need to sit down with your Husband and find out what he is doing to do about the situation. His current "girlfriend" doesn't have one thing to do with the decisions that the two of you make for your children. The fact that he is allowing her to tell him what to do where the kids are concerned is flat out weak to me. In the long run the only ones that are suffering are the children. Either way you can't keep covering for him where the kids are concerned. He is an adult and totally accountable for his own actions. Tell him to grow a backbone and speak up for himself. Otherwise, his relationship with his children will suffer more than it already has. Best of luck.
2007-06-16 16:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by Christine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a POS loser!
First of all, you were wrong--dead wrong--to continue sleeping with him while he was being untrue. You should have told him to peace out.
Women love to know what men are thinking. Often times, women can become more frustrated by their thinking than their actual moral failing.
What you need to do is forget about him and his thought processes. He's a cheating loser and if he's forsaking his kids for some lecherous witch, let him. Your kids shouldn't be around that anyway.
You need to get your kids around more positive male role models...like their grandpa, for example.
And whatever you do: stay away from him!
2007-06-16 16:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by YourMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like my mom said men are stupid and you have to let them be dumb for a little while. just leave him alone and move on. Your kids are hurt but you have to sit down and tell them the situation so they don't grow up wondering what happened. The other women is just that an other women. He doesn't respect you or her so cut him loose and show your kids 2 as much love as my mother did with me.
2007-06-16 16:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mid life crisis or hes a pussy. I have no use for a woman or a man that choses someone else over there kids. If I were you I would tell him to go the hell on these kids dont deserve to have this evil person in there lives.
2007-06-16 16:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is being controlling and he`s gladly giving her the control. If he really wanted to see his kids he would pick them up and spend the day with them.
If he wants that kind of woman in his life and if he wants to destroy is relationship with his children there is nothing you can do. Go on with your life and spend quality time with your children. If you keep your children busy having fun with them they won`t concentrate too much on why daddy isn`t there.
2007-06-16 16:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO TALK TO HIM. Tell him to be a man and respect all the promises he had toward ur kids when u guys were together. Tell him about the kids. Just talk to him and ur kids.
2007-06-16 16:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a jerk, kids should be more important
and why she wants him i have no idea
2007-06-16 16:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by myddad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋