When someone tries to give what has been a pretty turbulent relationship another chance for the sake of their young child, does it more than often work out or not? If there is some sort of affection between the mother and father but the basis of the reunion is for the well being of the kid, can the relationship last in the long term?
2007-06-16 08:43:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Very seldom does it work out...probably NOT 10% of the time. That's not scientific, but it IS experience!!
2007-06-16 08:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the child is the most important thing. You got back together for the well being of your child, But is it in the child's best interest to grow up in a turbulent environment? Are you with this person because you love them? this may be a question your child asks you in the future
2007-06-16 16:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by tootnuts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stay together for the kids. They usually grow up needing a lot of counseling. It's a good time to teach your kids that you are a strong woman. If you go ahead with the second chance there will be a third and a fourth, etc. That is not the kind of message you want to teach your kids, do you? You've made your decision, stick with it. Sorry if this is a little painful to read.
2007-06-16 15:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by craziekittiekat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people who rate their marital happiness low at one time, will rate it higher when asked again in 5 years. Read this research for yourself.
Some divorces are good things, but once you have a child you're stuck with the other parent. If you can't get along when you live together and can legally have make-up sex, how will you manage to raise the child after you've p***d each other off royally getting the divorce? Sounds like you're better off staying together.
2007-06-16 15:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is not working.....honesty has to come first for the sake of the child. If this is an honest effort from both parties then it may work. If it is entered into for the child only it will fail.
2007-06-16 15:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard but try one last time and if it doesnt then end it because it can be just as awful being together for the child. But if u break up have a talk with your kid with your husband and tell the child that its not there foult and they love him/her just as much as ever and make arrangments for the child to see each them for a.g. live with the mother in the week and the dad the weekends or the over way around
2007-06-17 06:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by pottermad160 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying it absolutely won't work, but it would have a better chance of working if the motivation for staying wasn't for someone else's benefit. You got involved initially because you wanted to be together, not because you eventually wanted to have kids (presumably). So, it stands to reason that staying together should be equally "personal" to have a real shot at success. Good luck with this. I know it's a difficult dilemma.
2007-06-16 15:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am sorry, but you need to get on together. Bringing up a child in an argumentative environment is not a good idea.
So you must agree to get on together, chill on the arguements or what causes them, compromise and most of all, reserve some time to spend with each other, in and out of bed.
2007-06-16 18:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by martin m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would only get back together if we both wanted to be together. If you have split up you need to look at the why. You have to be ready and willing to throw pride out the window and give it an honest shot, otherwise you have hurt your young child. Weigh all options before making a decision, and go to counseling together.
2007-06-16 16:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could work if both are honest and caring and don't cheat. Not even on the internet by having girl friends that you flirt with. Do not go to porn sites then blame your wife for your lack of interest in her. You may not go to them. I don't know. Sit down and have a long talk. Don't let it be just about one of you. Both have to be happy. Talk things over with each other not friends. If you tell lies to one another it will fail.Marriage takes lots of work and prayers with both partners. And putting God first, self second, family next to God.
2007-06-16 21:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by nolongeractive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both parties are willing to try to make it work and try their hardest to do so for your child then in most cases yes. however like was stated in previous answer if the initial problems were ignored they may come back to haunt you, however if they have been resolved chances of it working out are good. i hope this helps.
2007-06-16 15:48:17 · answer #11 · answered by mandi88_bailey05_ray 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋