Is it my fault?

Question

made one of the worst mistakes of my life.I relocated to Los Angeles from the bay Area, and I wound up getting involved with this guy at my college.He's what you would call "Mr.Popularity" he's in a fraternity, school president, etc, so we had a brief sexual relationship, It wasn;t planned or anything, but he's friends with this girl I know, and I also know his sister, they both happens to be part of an organization I want to join.Anyhow, a few months go by, and I sent tim a text message saying good morning the guy I was involved with told me not to call him anymore, and also went on to say that I if i called him again he would get a restraining order, and that he did not like me...so I said fine "no problem" I never called him again right, so the very next day I get a voicemail from his friend inviting me to an event "that he invited her too" I returned her call three days later, and she's tells, me never mind" the event is over, "take care" so after that I would see her at school

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14 minutes ago
I see her at school she ignores me, i;ve called her a few times to wish her happy holidays, and to wish her congrautlations on winning a show at my school she just ignores me, when I see him at first he ignored me, but a few months back he called me over to him saying he wanted to talk to me, but I told him i had to get to class, and so now he doesn't speak to me anymore,so I just feel so bad about te whole thing..now none of the members speaks..

7 minutes ago
Umm, no he did accuse me of playing on his phone...he said someone was calling and playing on his phone, and he heard my voice in the background, and there fore he didn;'t want to be friends with me, but the bad part I did was call him after that to try to talk to him and convince him it wasn;t me...

6 minutes ago
And we had sex after that...but I did ask him..if it was okay to call him again and he said yeah...and he even call me..and I felt like if really thought I was crazy..or playing on his phone why did he give me his new address...

Answer 1

I'd love to know your definition of the "organization" you say you want to join in? Is it when you tell people you are having sexual relationship with Mr. Popular whatsoever, even though you're screwing your brains out?

Instead of admitting that you're having fun with a guy purely for sex, because you can't seem to get along in any area, you're pretending to be "broken." That way, you can think of your sexual encounters as random events that just happened to occur, rather than what they truly are.

If you and your Mr. Popular stud or whatever you want to call him want to take responsibility for your lives, have an honest discussion about what's happening. Either accept the fact that you are using each other for sex, and would like things to remain this way... OR, if you truly want a real healthy relationship, stop seeing each other completely and create an opening for a more compatible partner to enter your life.

Answer 2

You got played, consequently you now seem to need a whole new circle of friends because he has poisoned this one against you. This is not the end of the world, though it must feel like it at times. Los Angeles is a large city with many diverse and interesting people to meet; he's part of a small school of fish in a very large ocean. Put physical and emotional distance between yourself and all of these people and the pain of this whole ordeal will fade in time. It's summer now so go back north to the bay area and enjoy the cleaner air. When you return in the fall, there will be a different set of fresh circumstances to greet you. I'm sorry this happened to you, but I think you'll be okay. Next time, evaluate the guy a little better before agreeing to sleep with him....everything that glitters isn't gold, and that popularity stuff doesn't really play well in the adult world anyway. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Sweetheart dont take offense to what I'm going to say....you put this question out to get feedback and opinions on your situation. I think these people you're mentioning look at you as being naive, gullible , and simple minded. They know they can walk over you and take advantage of you. There's no way someone who considered you a friend or someone you built enough rapport with and considers a friend could act this way towards you???? Think about it...does this guy sweeten up a little bit when he wants sex or is everything cool when either of them need something from you???? The fact that you posted this question shows that it's bothering you immensely....You should shut both of them out completely...I guarantee if you switch the roles (ignore them, act as if they're social lepers) You will see and feel a huge difference. I hope you realize no one deserves to be treated like this and work on your confidence and self esteem issues.....Good Luck

Answer 4

It sounds very complected to me. I am not sure about all of the ins and outs of your situation, but I do know this. If it is right to last, it will feel like it is right to last. All relationships are work. But they are the kind of work that you don't mind, because you love the other person. You feel that love reciprocated back to you by the other person when you do a dumb thing. Your situation sounds like it lacks that feeling. I would look for a new person. It sounds like this guys position and social standing is what you are attracted to. That is no base for a stable relationship. I would be willing to bet that there is a Joe nobody out there that would worship the ground you walk on of you will open that door. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Stop dealing with people who don't really care about you as a person and get control of your hormones before you end up with some sort of deadly sexually transmitted disease. Your present behavior is very risky and lacking in wisdom. It doesn't matter whose fault this is because playing the "Blame game" never resolved anything. Please learn to love yourself and expect more consideration from those you choose to associate with.

Answer 6

just playing with you. Forget and move on with your life that is the most important thing, you dont need advice from anyone just look at all what you can do with your life, you dont need those kind of guys. You are very valuable and important just keep with colege and forget about them

Answer 7

The only thing he wants from you is sex...when A better deal comes along he will move on.

You should have waited until you were marreid then you would not have all these isues

Answer 8

oh don't worry about it, he's just being a d**khead he's not even worth your thoughts. You deserve better than someone treating you like that, it's out of order.
It's not your fault at all, i think he's just making the most out of him being the 'popular' one and gets kicks making you feel like this.
You'll find other boys and other friends, they obviously didnt care about you that much to be like this with you.

Answer 9

Oh, th drama! Life nor Love should ever b quite so complicated! 2 -ell w/all th/drama, move on!!!

Answer 10

sounds like hes using you for some booty when theres no one else around im not trying to be funny but that what i think