I am 21 yrs old still in college and hubby is 25 yrs old works for insurance company only been married 3.7 months before he filed for divorce.Long story short we took 4 month break before marriage his idea(i am sure he was not innocent during the break) and i had a fling ex.bf and got married unaware i was pregnant w/ ex.bf child.Curently we are going through a nasty divorce since i told him the truth.Some of my close family are aware of the details but None of my friends or anyone else is.As of now i am already beeing snubbed or a pity case just because i am showing i am pregnant.My soon to be ex.hubby has said nothing but as of now most people are assuming its his?
2007-06-16 07:12:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have not lied to anyone i just refuse to comment on my pregnancy.I really dont want a weorse reaction then what i have now!
2007-06-16 07:17:28 · update #1
It's not really anybody else's business and nothing good can be achieved by being overly forthcoming with that information, so keep that to yourself except for those with a definite need to know, i.e. your husband, & the actual father.
2007-06-16 07:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need to tell "all". Get through the divorce first. Then deal with it as you feel comfortable. There is no need to announce this information to anyone. Unfortunately it will come out eventually, since you are not the only person who knows. In the mean time deal with the divorce.
2007-06-16 16:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by lori s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's no one's business like one of them just said, just tell people that it's personal and that you need to work out your own problems on your own!! But more importantly, does your ex know it's his?? If not, then you should tell him! Is he still interested in you? Can you imagine having a family with him? Would he want one with you? Right now this is what you should focus on, you and your baby, never mind what people gossip about. Good luck
2007-06-16 14:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by piano19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell the Truth in this case, if not for you but for the child's sake. No matter what any one thinks or how much pity they show, your child should be the focus of your concern.
2007-06-16 14:42:02 · answer #4 · answered by Short fuze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell everyone the truth otherwise it will be very confusing for the child when he or she gets older. the truth is always important and with something that big it definately needs to get out.
2007-06-16 14:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by KelSexyBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You reap what you sow. Good luck. I have no idea how to proceed.
If you had some true and dear friends talk with them. The secrets that we hide eat us alive.
2007-06-16 14:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Ed 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
easiest way to tell your friends, is to simply reply, "Now you know why we are getting divorced. Enough said".
2007-06-16 14:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's your life and your decision....
but you should tell the father of your baby, "cause your baby needs her father, even if you don't need it!!!
good luck!!!!
2007-06-16 14:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by claudetteeps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether you are aware of it or not... they are already talking about it... stuff like that are never kept "swept under the rug"... good luck to you.
2007-06-16 14:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by ragefury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋