I have only had to say it out loud a few times (well OK, a few dozen times)
But I have shouted it in my mind a thousand times or more.
Am I alone in this? Every time it raises my hackles and it motivates me to do far more than 99% of the able bodied population.
Is there a better way to deal with being told what I can and can't do?
2007-06-16 06:22:09 · 13 answers · asked by Truth be Told 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ People with Disabilities
I have to say it to people about my daughter all the time. Amazingly enough it's my mom I have to say it to the most. My daughter is autistic. I just tell people, everyone has great potential and limitations. Let her reach her full potential and find her own limitations.
2007-06-16 22:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by neffer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the freaking time. That is why I'm earning dual degrees in Computer and Electrical Engineering because of that very same thing. Nothing pisses me off more than being told that I'm unable to do something as a result of my disability. Both of my grandmothers did. My parents do it to me now and we stay at each others throats because of it. They are against me going back to school because they are afraid that the family retard will out perform but that is just too damn bad.
How I handle ignorant people like that is just go out and do whatever you want to do anyway. The hell with them. If these same clowns ask you to do something for them and you honestly don't want to be bothered, just say "Sorry, unable to do it" even though you are able to do whatever they want you to do. After a while they will get the hint and they will realize that you are capable of doing anything you set your mind to. That is how I handle my irritating *ss family, anyway.
2007-06-19 05:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by Whatever 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard the statement, "Oh you can't do that because you are disabled and you never know when you will have a spell." My sister would make me so upset when she would tell me that. She needed a babysitter for her daughter but no I am not good enough because I might have a spell but I am able to drive 1 hour to her house pick her up go to the doctor which is another hour then take her back home & then drive back to my house. Hello that is 4 hours total.
2007-06-16 19:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by ~Sheila~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly some people assume that people with a disability are unable to do for themselves or make their own choices.
I take a client out shopping who has trouble communicating, but they can nod their head, and point to what they want. And most frustrating is people will talk to me and not the client, so I ask people to talk to the client not me.
If I was in your situation I'd be very polite and say "Thank you for offering, but I can make my own choices and can do most things for myself, if I need your help I will ask for assistance" or "Please give me the curtsy of trying, if I fail your right, if I don't fail then you were wrong".
2007-06-16 18:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by Georgie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone. Been there, odne that. But I'm afraid I'm meanter than you are. I wait and let the jerks commit themselves--preferably in front of others. Then I go ahead and do whatever t is--and make sure every one knows. it.
Mean-spirited maybe. But bigots deserve no mercy. :)
2007-06-17 17:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I love your attitude. You could calm down a bit, but I have exactly the same thing going on for me. I'm really glad I do. Tell me I can't, and then watch me do it, AND be successful! I'm mentally handicapped. For one example, the dr. told me I'd never be able to stop smoking...lol...when I decide, watch me not smoke another one!
2007-06-19 08:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by Linda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend like that, except that every time somebody told him he could not do something, he was motivated into action to prove them wrong.
2007-06-18 07:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by Richard H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand your question. I was in a wheelchair for almost two years and I was told I would never get out of it. I proved them wrong is this the answer you are looking for?
2007-06-16 14:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by Pearlinpc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of times
2007-06-16 08:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I find myself repeating that more than enough, and the number one person who just doesn't "get it" is my mother. And she should know better. I'm not a very confrontational person, so it's my weakness. I either use sarcasm (make them feel like crap) or walk away.
Screw 'em if they just drag you down. Only you know what you can do.
2007-06-16 08:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by Quonx. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋