I love my best friend more than anything in the world. Is that wrong? I don't get on with my family and reach out for love from her. She is my closest friend, I share everything with her. I love her more than my own life. Is that wrong?
2007-06-16 05:27:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You don't say how old you are. When I was in my teens I felt exactly the same way. I didn't connect with my family at all, we had a lot of bad stuff happening, and I reached out to my friends.
For me, they were my family, in as much as they provided emotional support and acceptance, through those difficult years, however now as an adult I have my own children and dear husband.
Don't beat yourself up about it, just enjoy the closeness which not everyone has! But also try not to get too distant from your family, they might well be there for you one day when your friends may not...you never know what is around the corner!
LOL
2007-06-16 05:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it is wrong, as long as we're talking about blood relations and not the person you've married.
We choose our friends but have no choice in who we are related to. It's actually quite normal for us to become more distant with our families and get closer with the people who share our views and interests. We are born into our families, friendships are something we have to earn and work at. In a few years though, you might start to find yourself getting closer to those family members who you were once not getting along with. You might start missing the things you didn't like about them. One day you might find that the only people who really understand you are the people who were there to see you grow into the person you are.
2007-06-16 06:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by mkultra 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's wrong, I think you are very blessed to have such a good friend in your life. We love people in different ways. For instance, I love my wife with all my heart, but it's a different kind of love that I have for my family and that is different than the love I have for my close friends. So feel good about it and remember that we can love many people in many different ways.
2007-06-16 10:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird to be drawn to the only person around you that gives you the love and attention that you crave for so much.
The only danger is of becoming obsessional. How would you cope if someone else came on the scene and took your friend's attention away from you?
It's great having a close friendship as long as it's not exclusive. Expand your circle of friends and enjoy spending time with them all.
2007-06-16 05:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by flutterby 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No. Many more families than would care to admit are extremely dysfunctional (the british disease) and continue to perpetuate their un-happy existences by being in a state of constant denial about their daft behaviour. If you have been fortunate enough to secure a friendship that is reciprocal in offering love and support to each other, you are lucky indeed.
Try to have compassion for your family and don't be in denial about any mistakes you have made. As we go through life we pick up our own little families......only natural.......we all need to be needed. Good luck to you!
2007-06-16 05:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by simon267901 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about judging this as right or wrong. You are allowed to love people just like family. The ironic thing is you can't choose your family but you can choose your friends - so in a way that makes your friends more special perhaps?
2007-06-16 05:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Normally a man would meet a woman, become friends get married have kids etc. and would put them above anyone or anything! including family. Its not unusual .To have power full feelings for someone is perfectly natural. A note of caution! does your friend now your feelings, Revealing such news to your friend could be disastrous
2007-06-16 05:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by Andrew A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't.
I have recently lost my best friend through the result of another girl coming between us.
I loved my best friend to pieces, she was always there for me, and I for her.
Many people will tell you that it is weird, for those who say this, you have not experienced true best friendship. It is the most amazing thing, and you are lucky to have you're best friend.
God gave us our families, and we choose our friends.
Your best friend is you're friendship soul-mate, (not intimate) and therefor you're other half, often known as you're mirror image.
We see qualities that we have in our best friends, and you're best friend is always there for you, where as a family member MUST love you, as it is inevitable.
A true best friend loves you for who you actually are.
And that knowledge, is, was the best feeling I ever got.
Look after you're best friend, because once I lost mine, I was never the same again. It hurt, like nothing I have ever felt before.
2007-06-16 06:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by L8F20G 4 · 11⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like maybe you have a non-sexual crush. That's ok tho hun.
But try and keep ever6ything in perspective- maybe family will be there sometime and she won't.
2007-06-16 05:32:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
its not wrong at all.. you can choose your friends.....
i love my friends endlessley!!
2007-06-16 05:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by tiny_lou1965 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋