Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Is it boredom? I met up with a girl who wanted to try something out, but when I hung out with her, I had to remind myself of why were there, and when I did, it made me slightly ill and I just could not imagine myself actually going through with that. She was pretty and nice and all though, but naturally I just felt like we were two friends hanging out or something. It frustrates me that I have these fantasies but I don't want to act on them. Is it possible that it's because I'm just so sick of how men have treated me? Can I just be trying to replace them, but it would never work. I don't know. Any thoughts would be much appreciated.
2007-06-16 05:21:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You live in your head too much. Reality isnt going to be like you act it out in your head. Real human relationships are about more then the sex. When you look at a real woman you see she is a person and not an object, and you become intimidated and ashamed of your desires.
Try to understand she has desires too. She is a person like you. Try to meet her where she's at, instead of planning it all out ahead of time. Give more hugs.
2007-06-16 05:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Alright22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are just that....a fantasy. I think few people really carry out many of their fantasies, but they continue to have those fantasies. You don't necessarily have to act on it. Fantasy and reality are 2 different things. Don't force yourself to carry out your fantasy, because then you may later regret it. Usually the fantasy is better than the actual reality of doing it and can cause problems between friends or in your own mind and heart. Be yourself and don't pressure yourself into following your fantasy. If the time comes and you are ready then you will know. I think right now, you should continue to enjoy your fantasy as a fantasy.
2007-06-16 10:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep. We all have fantasies. Thank God that's all it is.
2007-06-16 05:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by Brenda M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's why it's called a FANTASY...
2007-06-16 05:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by gldnsilnc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HMM..THAt's the way life is.exactly.
2007-06-16 05:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋