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Question

why is it so hard to open and trusting after being hurt/validaited when i was so young?
Current mood: worried as well as untrusting
Category: worried as well as untrusting Life


part of me is still untrusting with certaining situations but i still want to be open hearted and open minded but still my psyche is still very scattered with my past abuse.

at work i can trust my co-workers on everything even my life and i told some of them what happen. i know it is touchy subject for work but we like best friends and sisters/brothers.

now it is still little uneasy doing this on line and computer but it is easy who other people who experience this trial can help me and help each other thru this subject. i do this to help other people who deal with it too.

need to go eat dinner so i tell you guys more later

it obvious trust

it obvious trust

Answer 1

I am not quite sure whether you are asking a question or sharing your information about your life. If the question truly is about why it is difficult to trust others because of your past abuse then this is my answer. Anyone who has been hurt in any manner by anyone will logically have less trust because you never know when someone will hurt you again. However, if we tell ourselves to expect to be hurt, we are much more likely to be hurt and less likely to trust again. Our past affects us but does not have to rule us.

Answer 2

First of all, I think you should be cautious. People who are indiscriminately open should realize that they open themselves up to hurt as well as goodness. If you have suffered any form of abuse, why should you open yourself up to more? I am sure that is what you are thinking, and I think you are right. I hope that you find some people to support you and that you support each other because there is good and bad in the world that is unavoidable and you must harden yourself to withstand the pain the world is too ready to give.
Once you have hardened yourself, you should assess situations in terms of the costs or level of pain you may get if a venture fails, versus the good you may get. Some things are worth the price and sometimes we learn more from painful situations than from 'good' situations. One of my mottoes is expect nothing in return. When I give or lend, I d not give or lend with the expectation that I will get anything out of it. I just hope it doesn't work against me.
I also believe that we can live through anything but death and I thank God for the blessings of experiencing every day.
I know it is hard for you. I suggest you seek an understanding counselor who will help you become strong. We cannot forget the past, but we must live in the here and now and look forward to a good future. Live in Peace and I hope you experience all the love the world has to give you.

Answer 3

You didn't say much about your problem but you said that you are not trusting and are worried. We all go through those emotions some point in our lives and need someone to lean on. We as humans have a funny way of being or not being transparent. We don't want people to see our junk or we want people to perceive us in a different light. Some folks are genuinely concerned and others don't give a hoot. Find yourself a good Pastor/Youth Minister that can lead you to some solid answers and put your mind at rest. All that you seek for, Gods got it. Trust Him!
You be blessed and not stressed!

Answer 4

Block it all out of your mind. Defeat the enemy of the mind.

“Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless - like water. Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”

-Bruce Lee.