We have a very friendly relationship and I thought he was really cool ,excatly like what I always dream of but things changed when he walked in with his wife,what now?
2007-06-16 01:59:57 · 32 answers · asked by yooooha_mastenger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless he is willing to get a divorce, he can't be Mr. Right.
2007-06-16 02:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You mourn and move on.
I know that seems like a callous answer, but it's the best thing I can tell you. One of my closest friends met her soulmate at her new job. She said, "I can just feel when he walks into the room." She is such a deeply caring and wonderful person that I completely believe her. It's obvious there is something special between them. Per her accounts, he seems to feel it too.
But of course, he is married and happily so. They just have a great friendship, and they both know it can never be anything more than that.
I can see the hurt in my friend's face when she talks about it, and I keep thinking, "You've got to go out and find someone else." But then I realize how insensitive that is. She has waited her whole life for the right man . . . tried not to date until she felt a deep connection with someone . . . . and now that she has found him, I can't ever see her dating someone.
It's not an approach I would take, but it is how she feels she can and should handle it. And it makes me sad. I hope she takes a few years to mourn, and then allows herself to love again.
2007-06-16 02:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My feelings would turn from MR right to MR Dick... At least you found out before things really got heated ( i am assuming you never had sex ). What now? You never speak to him again unless you want to be the other woman and i wouldn't know why you would settle for someone who you can't trust,,, and you don't want to be second do you? Because that is where you will be. Always, and don't fool yourself into thinking he will leave his wife, because he won't and even if he did you will always remember him cheating on his wife with you. NO TRUST. Their is someone out their for you that is MR right, real love takes tome to find. Patience is a virtue.
2007-06-16 02:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. He is not yours to take. If he could cheat on his wife then you are fond of a liar and a betrayer.
What would there be left for you?
Why do you want to hurt his wife in the worst way who has done nothing to you? He has already proven he is untrustworthy and you are gullible to fall for it.
Keep away and find your real Mr Right don't be fooled by his smooth words he is wanting to have sex with you and will promise anything but his words are shallow because he is cheating already.
If he can break marriage vows then how can you trust anything about him.
2007-06-16 02:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's too bad he's married. Don't cheat with him. If he is truely the right man for you, things will work out without your interference. Just lay low and try to forget about having a relationship with him. Continue dating other people and your true Mr. Right will surface eventually.
2007-06-16 02:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lady J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So okay I guess you realize now he's not really Mr. Right. Would you really want a Mr. Right who's a cheater? I don't think so. Move on, and find the qualities that you do like in him in a guy who's available.
2007-06-16 02:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a torrid affair with him!
Then one day when he is wracked with guilt and tells his wife, you can chase her down and boil a bunny on their stove...
Oh, that's been done already....
Just steer clear. You could probably remain friends but this attraction will really weigh heavily on you and be the cause of much grief. And, just like the movie, he's not going to leave her for you.
2007-06-16 02:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by Steve S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a radioactive bomb, honey. A married man is SO not worth getting you heart involved with. And know this: if he's willing to cheat on his wife with you, what's not to say he'd eventually cheat on you with someone else? Be friends; nothing more. You'll get hurt and it can be a really really really messy thing.
2007-06-16 02:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Nose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now you know - he's not Mr Right
And it may be the whole thing was really in your head. Did he do anything to encourage you?
True love is a two-way relationship, not simply one person having strong feelings for another - that's not love.
2007-06-16 02:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing right with that Mr. Right is Mr. All Wrong. He is a liar and a cheater. If he cheats on his wife, he will cheat on you. Drop the zero and find you a hero.
2007-06-16 02:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by 2Cute2B4Got 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DUMP his cheating a__!!!! Been there, done that, MOVED ON!!! If he's cheating on his wife, he is Mr. Wrong. Do you honestly think you could change that about his persona? Honey, if he cheats on her, he will ultimately cheat on you if he hasn't or isn't already. Good grief, girl, WAKE UP and smell the coffee! You deserve much better!
2007-06-16 02:04:26 · answer #11 · answered by kathygrggs 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋