If you are trying to do something that I know better than you do, or to learn something that I know,... :) ?

Question

do you want me to help you, or to correct you, or to teach you the right/best way of doing that?

Or do you prefer to learn/do it alone?

Would you like me to help without asking, to offer the help and wait to see if you accept it, or to leave you alone?

Does this depend on the kind of thing you are trying to learn or to do? (a sport, a language, a new job, a new hobby....)

Thank you for your answer! :) Have a wonderful weekend! :)

Answer 1

typically moon, i like to take some instruction, enough so i feel confident that i won't break or harm anything beyond repair, and then try it on my own and go from there. i don't like constant surveillance or criticism over my shoulder as i'm trying to proceed. any help or advice you have to offer, i'd prefer you offer it first as a precaution or a warning, before i begin.

written instructions are my last resort, i'll examine something first and see how i think it 'ought' to work. then i'll attempt to do it. and only lastly will i read or ask why i'm having no success--- or i'll be happy that i figured it out on my own.

Answer 2

It depends on the activity or thing to be learned. I'm happy to listen to advice but I might not always follow it.

It depends if the skill or information to be learned is for work or for practical purposes (I want lots of help and advice) or if its just for entertainment or creative purposes (some advice is OK but for the most part I want to figure it out myself)

I believe that there is almost always more than one way to achieve something and the way that works best for you might not be the way that works best for me...

...But after saying all of that I would be happy to accept your help as I would be quick to offer help to someone else if I thought I could be of some service.

Answer 3

The best way to learn something new or to improve your skills is to spend time doing that "thing" with people who know what they are doing.

I would definitely want you to share all of your knowledge, secrets, tricks, and advice! By watching you and following your direction, I could become better at what I do. Then, by practicing what you have taught me, I could become very good!

A good example would be horses. I have learned tremendous amounts by watching my kids in their therapeutic riding program and listening to their instructors. Then, I listened to different people as I went around looking for my own horse. (I threw some of that out!) My farrier is one of my best teachers, as are an old friend who knows horses, my father-in-law who logged with horses, the vet, my Parelli instructor and the Parelli home video program, and my horse. I want to know more. I ask. I listen. I watch. I learn.

The exception for me would be bowling. I'm not good at it, and I'm really only into it for the socialization of my kids and myself. It seems as if everyone thinks themselves an expert, and "everyone" offers advice. These are the steps I have been taught for rolling a good ball:

Start at the second row of dots. (Which dot to stand at depends on the "coach.") Take a deep breath in through my mouth and let it out through my nose. Walk a straight line directly to the foul line. While walking, count the steps while swinging the ball back. (This will slow my approach.) While keeping my eye on my mark at all times (this mark varies according to the "teacher") bring my ball forward (brush the pant leg, but do not let the ball touch my leg) and release. Roll the ball, don't throw the ball. Now choose: thumb forward? thumb to my side? thumb to the side to begin with but apply a bit of a twist as the ball leaves my hand? (Depends on the "coach.") After the release, continue bringing my hand up to my ear as if answering the phone. Hello? And I look around me and notice that I don't see anyone else doing all of that stuff. And then they tell me: "Relax and have fun!"

Anything else? I'm a good learner. Show me how you do it, offer me advice, tell me what I need to practice. I learn best from people who know what they are doing and have the desire to share what they know. Then I take it away from there and practice. It's the practice that makes everything work together as if it were second nature.

Answer 4

if you're most effective thirteen take german in high school, finding out from an genuine trainer is way bigger than finding out from a CD or looking to coach your self, and also you can not simply gain knowledge of german in a single day, it takes three-four years a minimum of, and then you definitely are not even fluent, you simply talk particularly good, then you ought to talk to genuine germans to get the accessory down and do away with any unhealthy behavior or mispronounced phrases.

Answer 5

Everything is grist to the mill. So I like to have people offer help and we can explore it together. After that, I'll choose.

Answer 6

I prefer this formula.
"to offer the help and wait to see if you accept it"

Answer 7

I was taught by my parents that you learn it, do it, then teach it. So I would want to watch you, do it myself, then teach someone how to do it. We live by the Learn, Do, Teach with our kids to. It works with visual and tactile learners.

Answer 8

no I would appreciate any help you can offer.

Answer 9

i'd ask you to help me!it's easier if sby shows you!