recently got back in contact with a friend of mine I uesd to go to high school with.The first time we went out, I paid for everything, we went to a concert.I paid for our tickets, our food, drove us around, and even drove her to get some money from this guy she's been seeing then we wen went to buy outfits and she had the ordacity to ask me to help her buy some earrings, the second time, I drove her and her sister, to this restauraunt, paid for her sister to eat,(because it was her birthday) I spilt some food on my shirt and she laughed histeriaclly, and told her boyfriend she will make fun of me if she wants too. Plus her sister, always asks me sutpid questions like "what do I do when I give oral sex, and what type of positions, do I do? What really questions my friendship, is the other day, it was my friends birthday, we all met up a restaraunt and bought ballons, and cake for my friend,(my best friend) and my old friend, asks me out the clear blue if "I got her for dinner"
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9 minutes ago
I'm like what the heck? First off she enver asked me to pay for her dinner, and I' don't mind treating my friend, but I end up paying because hse explains to me that she's oughta work..so we drop off my best friend, and she asks me for gas money, and I give her ten dollars..so is it me but it just seems like everytime we go out, but on the flip side, she tells people I'm her closet friend, and hse loves me, and all this stuff but I;m paying, driving, and everything.is this my friend or foe..I'm not really sure.
4 minutes ago
there was one time, when me her sister, and myself went to eat, i treated her sister, because it was her birthday, I think I wa short like five dollars, she screamed and got upset with me about being short for paying..can you believet hat
2007-06-15 21:29:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
It sounds to me like her only friend is your and other peoples wallets. She is self centered if you ask me. Move on thats not a true friend. I say she is a gold digger.
2007-06-15 21:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by hourglass_beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't your friend. Theres a difference between doing something nice out of free will (and expecting nothing in return) and being forced to do things for people. The latter will just cause resentment.
You need to tell her very clearly: don't beat around the bush or start avoiding her etc. Tell her that woman, you need to get your act together because I'm not your granny, I'm your friend. And if she gets upset, good riddance to bad rubbish.
I can understand you feeling hesitant about confronting your "friend" but if this goes on, a few years down the line you're going to hate yourself for being used. And why should you be used in the first place? Would she do the same for you if YOU were broke? There are no two ways about it: you HAVE to tell her that you dont have an endless supply of cash and you plan your expenses carefully in order to make ends meet.
Good luck!
2007-06-15 23:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Bhatty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people leave our lives and are meant to stay that way. A hi here and there maybe. But that's abuse of a friendship. It seems as though you are being to nice.
Money is money and people work hard to get it. Tell her know. Make her give you gas money or money for food. She may say one thing in front you you but that doesn't mean that she is saying the same behind your back.
You need to tell her a best friend would. If it hurts her or bothers her and she can't take it then how good of friend is she if she is abusing what you have. And using it to her advantage.
Friendships are give and take not give, give, give....
2007-06-16 02:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by afj60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not normal. And you already know that.
This person is a moocher and a user, plain and simple.
Either dump them or make them pay for everything from now on. I'll bet you as soon as you lay down the law about the person having to pay, they will dump you because you are no longer useful to them.
2007-06-15 21:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of path its well-known to sense quite betrayed in all of this. i might sense the same way. Its particularly good that your prepared to welcome this different guy into your group. yet as your pal previous to this guy, sarah could be bringing him around, and shouldnt be blowing you off with the aid of fact of him. Theres continuously 2 aspects to a narrative, and then there is the reality. no person particularly is familiar with for particular why they broke as much as start up with, yet sarah isnt particularly performing like a pal precise now- shes performing extra selfish than something. perhaps shes hurting and this guy is largely a rebound dating- attempt to chat to her once you get time to (on my own) and ask her whats occurring together with her recently. tell her the way you sense too and doubtless you men could paintings it out to spend extra time mutually and finally develop into particularly accepting of her new dating. It sounds like your prepared, with the aid of fact of your acquaintances sake. Your quite being a real pal to her, so now i think of she could be doing the same. good success
2016-11-24 23:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her she is a free loader i live beside a woman like that and now i wont even let her past me front gate i do hate people that wont pay there way we all got to work and pay bills ok i treat on birthdays and special occacions she is useing you big time DUMP her before you go bank rupt
2007-06-16 01:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being abused. You are a kind, sharing person. Get away and keep away from these people. They are not your friends really, they want you to raise them.
2007-06-15 21:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long question - short answer - you're being used. Dump her and her sister.
2007-06-15 21:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm honey I wouldnt call her your friend. Sounds like a moochin b*tch, loose her
2007-06-15 21:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you already ask this question?
And the answer is yes, I am broke right now.
2007-06-15 21:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋